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Am I really crazy?

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emil23 >> 13/05/2012 9:01pm

As an only child on a farm with no other children near us, I had a lot of imaginary friends and was always able to play by myself happily. But that hasn't really ever changed. i turn 18 in a month, and I am still quiet happy to talk to people who i know aren't there. When no one else listens, they do. And they stop me from feeling so alone all the time. Bit when i go out into public and to school, I have to constantly remind myself that i really shouldn't start talking to no one with other REAL people around. Am I really crazy? is it strange that I prefure these non existant people to the real ones?

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TheAspieOutcast >> 15/05/2012 9:28pm

Dear emil23,

You're not crazy, I tend to talk to myself too sometimes. In fact, it's a great self-coping method for those who have trouble processing their thoughts and opinions or anything else that's been on their minds for a period of time...

So don't worry if others look at you funny when you happen to talk to yourself, that's their problem. Just make sure to find a private place if you don't feel comfortable having lots of eyes peering at you if you prefer to chat to your imaginary friends.

Hope this helps. :)

- TheAspieOutcast

Grateful :) >> 15/05/2012 9:00pm

Real people can be very challenging to be around sometimes, so I could understand why you could prefer imaginary ones. But I would recommend talking to a doctor about that, as it does sound a little out of the ordinary. They may be able to refer you to someone with more expertise in that area. I wouldn't consider yourself "crazy", but there may be something else going on neurally that would be good to address.

Losing it, again

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Bigheart >> 15/05/2012 9:17pm

Hi everyone, i really for you mikeskye..
Im seeing a counsellor, im only 24, live alone in a nice place but had a rough weekend, not getin the family time i wanted. Resorted to wine on sunday but much better i havent thought to since again, just been online at night with snacks. My problem is i NEED to decide about my next career path.........
Having enough time to brainstorm, i cannot and fear my decision, as im not in anybdebt either...
My problem is i get excited about something and can be unrealistic, turns out my close guy friend states its not promised or not much work going entreprenur, i do see this.but i dont care, ill rather make glass sculptures for a living, make money the secret way i always have and be happy...
*Creative people can become dreamers,* i feel like just the dreamer, my numerology states im happiest when: Doing Whatever i want when i want... i agree completely, i used to have social anxiety but i open upwhen im comfortable, but i need to learn sometimes how to put a lid on my forwardedness..
Im getting depressed and anxious in my own house, no one could afford to stay in bed for too long really, iv diminished, mybweeknd shoukd get better, my longterm life goalsnsuck, im also lazy, if im not lazy im hypo going driving places, i hate worrying about life and if i am competent or not
How do you snap out of it?

he wont listen to me

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sammydooo >> 14/05/2012 9:58am

i had a really really bad day yesterday i was good until the end of he day when we went out for pizza and i had to stay in the car while my dad and his girlfriend went to get the pizza and started holding hands i saw and felt so angry but so sad at the same time because i feel so bad for my mum because dad left her last year for this woman and i have seen how much she is hurting and its hurting me and then i just spiralled down and got sad and didnt want to talk to anyone and then she blew up at me and started saying that nothing i do is going to change anything and then my dad tryed to get me to tell him what was wrong bt i didnt wnt to tell him so i tried but he just got angry and said that i shouldnt be feeling this now im at school and its hard to stop crying but i dont want people to think im crazy im so stuck and i just want him to help me

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Grateful :) >> 15/05/2012 8:58pm

Man, that's rough. But I think what you're feeling is completely understandable and would be normal given the circumstances. Can I ask how old you are?

It sounds like your parents have a lot of their own stuff to sort out. It's not your responsibility to make your mum happy, no matter how much you may want to. Nor is it fair of your dad to expect you to accept his decisions. You're going to feel what you're going to feel. Try your best to let your parents take care of their issues, and focus instead on taking care of yourself.

Do you feel low quite frequently? Have you ever talked to a doctor about depression?

Eating issues

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redroxjemstone >> 05/05/2012 12:11pm

Hi my friends are convinced that i have an eating disorder, and yes i dont eat when i dont have to, but to prove them wrong i ate a really fatty breakfast, but they are a 100% convinced that i have an eating disorder, people with eating disorders wouldnt have come within a mile of the breakfast i ate, so how can i prove to them that i dont have an eating disorder? and if i was only eating that just to prove them wrong because i usually miss out on a few meals does that mean i have an eating disorder? i dont think it does but then i wouldnt really know, so confused about it,

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Grateful :) >> 15/05/2012 8:53pm

Hi :)

I have many friends and family members suffering from eating disorders, and have done a fair amount of research into them.

It is becoming more common in the literature to see eating disorders as the extreme end of a spectrum, ranging from healthy to unhealthy attitudes/behaviours towards eating. Even if you do not suffer from a full-blown eating disorder, it sounds like your current relationship with food is dangerous and something worth worrying about.

Do you suffer from depression as well? Lows can cause both insomnia and loss of appetite. If you cannot sleep because you are low, it might be good to talk to a doctor. If you have a lack of appetite and think it is because you are in a low, it is a really good idea to eat something. Carbohydrates are necessary for the production of serotonin, a chemical in the brain that causes you to feel happy.

In relation to your eating issue concerns: Is it that you aren't hungry, or that you are but just don't want to eat? As honestly as possible, what is your current sense of your body image, and what are your relationships with your family like?

If you can, it would be best to try to not get angry with your friends. They may be annoying you at the moment, but it is only because they care about you.

Best of luck :) I'll try to be on more frequently than I have been recently, and will check back.

themazdalin >> 09/05/2012 2:14pm

Hun, I think your friends are right. Not eating because you don't have to, or because you're not hungry is bad. My sister was diagnosed with anorexia last year and since then has been working towards eating properly and getting to a sustainable weight that's healthy for her age. I think that eating a fatty breakfast as you put it to prove them that you don't is unhealthy. You need to eat 3 decent sized meals per day at least, not to mention snacks during the day to keep your mind going. Without the necessessary amount of food, you will start to lose your energy to do thinngs and your mind won't function properly. I know this because I watched my sister starve herself and pull herself into a hole when she could barely fucntion normally. Even if you're not hungry, or don't think you should eat because you don't feel like it, do. Because you need to eat!!! :) if you want to talk more about this feel free to get in touch with me Take care of yourself

themazdalin >> 09/05/2012 2:14pm

Hun, I think your friends are right. Not eating because you don't have to, or because you're not hungry is bad. My sister was diagnosed with anorexia last year and since then has been working towards eating properly and getting to a sustainable weight that's healthy for her age. I think that eating a fatty breakfast as you put it to prove them that you don't is unhealthy. You need to eat 3 decent sized meals per day at least, not to mention snacks during the day to keep your mind going. Without the necessessary amount of food, you will start to lose your energy to do thinngs and your mind won't function properly. I know this because I watched my sister starve herself and pull herself into a hole when she could barely fucntion normally. Even if you're not hungry, or don't think you should eat because you don't feel like it, do. Because you need to eat!!! :) if you want to talk more about this feel free to get in touch with me Take care of yourself

redroxjemstone >> 12/05/2012 4:22pm

Does not eating muck up how much sleep you get? cause lets just say i havnt been sleeping well and the less i sleep the less i want to eat. and the less i eat the more tired i get. its like a never ending circle

themazdalin >> 09/05/2012 2:14pm

Hun, I think your friends are right. Not eating because you don't have to, or because you're not hungry is bad. My sister was diagnosed with anorexia last year and since then has been working towards eating properly and getting to a sustainable weight that's healthy for her age. I think that eating a fatty breakfast as you put it to prove them that you don't is unhealthy. You need to eat 3 decent sized meals per day at least, not to mention snacks during the day to keep your mind going. Without the necessessary amount of food, you will start to lose your energy to do thinngs and your mind won't function properly. I know this because I watched my sister starve herself and pull herself into a hole when she could barely fucntion normally. Even if you're not hungry, or don't think you should eat because you don't feel like it, do. Because you need to eat!!! :) if you want to talk more about this feel free to get in touch with me Take care of yourself

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jay2012 >> 15/05/2012 1:05pm

recently ive lost a few of my friends because i decided to go to formal with my boyfriend which is a normal thing to do considering we have been going out for awhile but 4 of my friends werent very happy about that so they started text abusing him then they rang me that night and started abusing me over the phone . i have to deal with them everyday at school and its horrible they just give me looks and completely ignore me . i have lots of other friends that say what they are doing is stupid considering formal is something you should spend with your boyfriend and i totally agree . but these girs are mking it very hard for me to come to school

Don't know what to do

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sqwirly1975 >> 15/05/2012 12:40pm

I am in a relationship with a guy i love very much and don't want to lose him. But, i am sure he is cheating on me. There are a few signs, like finding condoms in his pockets after he has been somewhere, or hidden in a cupboard. When asked about them, he claims he doesn't know whos they are. I so want to believe him but i don't know. I just wish he would tell me the truth. If he did, i think i would have closure enough to be able to let him go. I find myself getting down about it all the time and then i try to talk myself into thinking i being stupid. I know i should be trusting my gut feeling. We are even planning on getting married in october. I honestly don't know what to do. Sometimes he is awesome with me and we are the happiest couple in the world. And then he changes and i don't know how he will be the next day. I am sick of being down and depressed and always wanting to stay home. I just want a life where we are happy all the time and there are no doubts. Is anyone else going through this?

Not coping too well

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simplyfloataway >> 14/05/2012 8:58pm

I'm always so tired. I'm unhappy and can't be bothered to do much anymore, all of the motivation to do anything has gone. Waking up in the morning is really hard and I can't focus on things for long. I feel as though my life is going nowhere and that I will never get out of this horrible place I am in. I  just don't know what to do and am having trouble coping with it all

what to do

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hannah clark >> 14/05/2012 8:38pm

i dont know what to do anymore

is there help for people with anxiety

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dianne >> 04/05/2012 8:26pm

is there help for anxiety people i had anxiety for 1year and a half my life hasnt been the same i lost my job i dont go out my family dont care so that doesnt help i feel lonely like im the only one with it it really sux

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paranatural >> 14/05/2012 6:18pm

I know how you feel. Anxiety started taking over my life. My doctor put me on a anti-depressant because of my depression and anxiety problem. And now i get very little anxiety symptoms because of the pill, i am now more confident then i have been in years thanks to medication Ask your GP

how to cope as a young couple

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miss sin >> 13/05/2012 6:20pm

hi i was just wondering.how do i approach services for help if i just end up on thier mailing list even after ive paid 17.50 to see the doctor to be referred and the outreach service only to be have them mailing me 2 ask if i want an appointment.its a year on since and im still going undiagnosed.ifind it hard just to figure what dutys i must achieve for a day..then theres the added stress of having a partner who might i add used to be supportive but my actions have slowly worn him down 2 depression aswell.its like i cant express myself and get it out properly without someone else picking it up and throwing it all back.how do young couples cope if thier not taken seriously by peers around them.

Nobody ever listened

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Mel_88 >> 13/05/2012 4:56pm

My whole life I've been in a sort of depression because it's hard for me to reach out to people. I've never been able to articulate my feelings and more often than not I will start crying even though it's a simple solution.
My parents separated at the start of last year when I was just starting polytech. Ive never been good at focusing at school but after that I struggled so much but I never cried over it, I kept it inside and acted in front of all these new people as if everything was ok.
My mum immediately got a partner, a man who she had been working with since I was 10, even then I hated him. I knew, just knew that he wanted her and he was married!
Now he's shifted to his home of Aussie and taking my mum and his daughter with him. I hate him so much!
It's weird cos I don't hate my dad's girlfriend. She's nice, and pretty. Dad isn't the best looking guy buy this guy is ugly, his son (a boy who used to sit next to me in high school) isn't that bad.
But mostly nobody really thinks its worth listening to especially when it takes me ages to get my words out. My best friend listens but I never have the time to see him anymore same situation with my dad. I used to find comfort in my cat but she's at my dads place now that I'm flagging in town and working 3 nights a week.
It's mothers day and I feel more alone than ever

feeling like im standing in the way of my own happiness

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Walker93 >> 30/04/2012 10:12pm

the days where i feel like im doing more reflection about how i feel are the days i think that i feel the most down on myself, largely because i have more time to dwell on things that are bothering me in my life and things that make me sad. i say to myself that i should keep busy and stop over thinking and anaylisising situations so much because it makes me feel depressed. I tend to compare myself to my friends and think that what i have or whatever isn't good enough. i start feeling sorry for myself which makes me angry and it frustrates me because all i want is too feel alive and happy and look forward to things in my life-and i do. i set short term goals but at the back of my mind i think that im the one standing in the way of my happiness like its right in front of me, but i just can't grab it. like there's a brick wall separting myself and happiness. I still remember when i was younger how everthing was perfect and thinking back on it now, its like i can't feel that way unless i change my environment and myself to get to a better place. I just want to feel more like myself again.
Tonight i had a silly argument with my mum and i started shouting at her in the car. i became aggresive and hit her-not hard but i hit her all the same. i hate myself for it because i love her so much and im so sorry i just have this anger inside of me that changes my personality completly. i want to change but don't know how. basically my problem is that i have my life-im choosing not too live it, for some reason. its almost like i dont want to be happy which is ridiculous but what else is there to think?

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mikesykes >> 13/05/2012 3:14am

hey i can relate to you a im always thinking to much ahead and not thinking of the day at bay .its really hard sumtimes but u have to just slow down take each day as it comes and as u ease ure tension ull soon start to realise what you really want but my main point is slow down dont let the world round you rush you u make the world wait for u and when ure ready.but the only one that is standing in the way of your grief and that wondereful life on the other side of the wall is your self u can make things happen just beleave

bridge12 >> 08/05/2012 5:14pm

i can understand how you feel. I feel a heap of guilt because i have a really good life and sometimes i wonder if all this stuff im feeling im just making up because im letting myself think too much.
I tell myself what i have to do to get better but some things just keep coming back. I tell myself that im not the only one who hurts but all of a sudden it really hurts instead of sliding like water off a ducks back like it used to. I used to be so strong and now i've gone backwards, instead of getting stronger im now broken. Sometimes I feel like im broken and no-one can fix me. Maybe they can help but they can't fix me.

I have a problem

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Ashyblubear >> 11/05/2012 7:22pm

I am confused as to what to do now!
I get pretty good grades etc but I have always had a problem, I had seperation anxiety and got through that and now with the events of my grand father getting diagnosed with cancer again and only getting who knows how many weeks or months to live, I have felt empty a bit like I have no proper friends anymore like my parents won't understand how I feel so I will think "i want a drink or a smoke" or something. I will try hurt myself so I will feel better! But have never succeeded because im afraid to Hurt myself badly and now I don't know how to approach this?!? I have up and down moments where right now I feel fine but then I may feel like i want the pain to go away. Of course I don't wanna die or anything!!! I love life but I just wanna sort out my problems!!! Because I'm sick of feeling this way!

hurting

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lost-and-confused >> 06/05/2012 9:45pm

Today has been a really bad day for me, I go through ups and downs and dramatic ones at that. I find myself sitting in a dark room since it means that I can't be seen almost as though I'm not here and the closest I will ever be to invisble. I don't cut myself but I bite, it give me a way to get my emotions out so I can face people everyday and it means they eventually go. I can't sleep, I never want to get out of bed and my weight is really starting to worry me... I am lost and confused and I don't know where to go except a dark room when I feel like this.

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melonlord >> 10/05/2012 5:39pm

Sorry, I know this sounds stereo-typical but, seriously, it does get better. If it makes you happy, don't feel bad to be alone, being alone can sometimes help.

I used to get really upset to the point of cutting and I always felt pathetic afterwards, more so than before. I still have scars after a year and I'm just embarrassed. My best release was reading and television, running away to a fantasy world and pretending I was a different person.

I'm assuming you hate exercise? Only because most people who feel like this do hate exercise, and there's actually proof that exercise releases endorphins (basically happy chemicals) into your brain and relieving stress as I'm sure you're under a lot of. I joined a sport. I was one of the most unfit people, I was lazy and I hated exercise but it was all about pushing through. For me, I joined rowing, it was hard at first but eventually I stopped comparing myself to others and I set myself goals, and honestly, the best feeling was not so much achieving them as knowing that I pushed myself that little bit further.

I know it feels bad now, just focus on the positives and it'll get better, I promise.

-MelonLord

im failing uni

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idunno >> 10/05/2012 4:41pm

im in my second year of uni now. and honestly i love it, what im learning. But its like ... i have no motivation to get out of bed, then go to class. I had no motivation to do my essay, and then when i finally forced myself down to do it, i had a break after a full 24 hours on the computer and its taking me hours just to get back that motivation to start again.

I just dont know what to do. I failed uni last year because i was too depressed. It was like it was hard to get up in the morning but then it was even harder to stay up during the day and not go back to bed. Most of my last year i spent just wandering around the streets, didnt matter where i was.

I've been thinking maybe i should just drop out. I know i should see the counsellor but .. to be honest i dont want people to know. I feel so weak like i have no self control and i keep thinking that im pathetic and that im just lazy and that its not depression at all, but then if i was just lazy then how come i dont even like seeing my friends, the people who make me laugh and smile just from the thought of them? I've been avoiding them for like two years now .. i just see them occasionally. They dont know, and i bet they think that im just a snob. But they mean so much to me!

Should i drop out? I mean im wasting money. Borrowed money. Im so poor i cant even afford bus money to get into uni most days. It was alright last year when i had student allowance, but because of my performance last year i was not qualified to receive it this year, nor could i get a student costs loan. My mum never agreed to me going to uni anyway. She thought i was just trying to be like my sister who is a doctor of astrophysics. She told me i should just get married young and have kids ... but im only 20 and i dont want to even be with anybody, im too messed up.

But if i do .. there will be no guarantee that they will accept me again. And i dont even know if ill have the motivation to go back.

I just dont want to end up like the rest of the people in my family, poor and always drinking and smoking all the time. Im really scared that this is all there is ever going to be in my life.

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