shutterbug15 >> 28/07/2011 11:22pm
im 15yrs old and serverely depressed ..
with me its just a little smile that makes people happy but when i smile its all a fake
im not being true to myself and how im feeling i do it because its what other people want to see
it makes them know that im ok, but seriously im not
im in a screwed up state of mind but to stubborn to talk to my councellor about my depressive state
all i tend to do is avoid the topic and talk about rugby the un-related things..
im good at that avoiding things :(
sarahjane >> 11/08/2011 3:37am
Hey there, i know how you feel, im not 15 but i had the feelings your having when i was that age, my problems were mainly because i had a hard life at home, if your mum or dad got you some one to talk to they must be cool? as long as your safe at home and you have a good mum or dad, then try talk to them, dont be scared they mike think your being silly, i always was scared to tell my dad because i thought he would get angry at me, but the fact that you can identify with your feelings at the age of 15 is really great and thats a real positive thing because that menas you have a gift at reading other people and reading yourself, some times i feel very down but there are lots of things you can try, i know people always say talk to soem one and there never seems to be a fix apart from pills or going to a councillor , but try these few things,i know it seems as though everything you do you feel like your still not happy and you feel hopeless, but try and see what you eat, if you eat alot of junk food then that can make you feel that you are depressed , its a way of your body saying, dont eat this food, your body does amazing things to let you know, like if you are not eating well, then it will make you feel unwell to try and get it out of your body, its kind of like if you get poisoned then your body will make you feel sick so you get rid of it or throw it up, in this case your body is saying, 'dont eat this food or i will feel down in the dumps' another think you can do is make sure you get out in the sun, the sun really helps to lift your mood, even though if you think its not working it will, keep going out in the sun each day, also surround yourself with people, if you feel like you have happy and laughing people around you, you will start to feel the same, but yoiu must remeber you cant just do it once and give up, keep doing it dont give up, try running it out, if you run or walk it out, your body will create good chemicals and start making new ones to replace the old bad ones, the alst thing is, try to remeber what you can be happy for, i know this can be hard, but really try to do it, think about your family and how much they love you, think about what great things you can do in your life, you can do anything you want, be a star a singer whatever dont let any one tell you that you cant do it because you CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN say it to yourself ten times, I CAN DO THIS I CAN DO THIS I CAN DO THIS, and there is one more thing, if you ever want to talk you can email me and i will always talk to you, if things get bad talk to me, if things are good let me know, i have been through heaps in my life so i really understand your pain. good luck hope you smile for real :) try reading some jokes or funny clips on the internet, get the good chemicals working in your brain, trick your mind!!!! email me on love.yaboys@hotmail.com
Sarah jane
DBella >> 06/08/2011 1:35pm
It sounds cliche and a little bit overused, but talk to your councellor. It's really hard to admit to yourself that you're not ok, but your councellor is there to help you work through that difficulty and help you find ways to keep it away. I know how hard it is; I spent years being too stubborn to talk about it, mostly because of the mangled, untrue selfimage that I was weak. I convinced myslef that if I just kept going through the pain that I would prove I wasn't weak. But after months of working myself up, we started working together to stop the hurting. It was honestly the best thing I ever did for myself, even though it meant a lot of crying and talking about things that I found uncomfortable. For the first time in a very long time, I felt safe and a little bit secure. It's hard, it hurts and it seems entirely logical not to trust anyone with that part of yourself, but your councellor is only there to hep you. No one deserves to meerly exist day-to-day, tell your councellor about why you feel like you have to put up a front, You may be surprised at what comes out.
chicken3 >> 29/07/2011 6:15pm
Hey hun,
I'm no expert, but I think that talking to your counsellor about it could be the best thing you'll ever do. That is because: depression is not a sign of weakness...it's an illness and with help from professionals, you can recover. I know it's hard to imagine, but you don't have to feel this way. You can feel amazing and love life, every day. Having battled on and off with depression all my teenage years, I now wish that I had the courage to seek help earlier. Instead I just blamed myself for feeling that way, when there really is no shame in it at all. Good luck, kj
