>> Start a topic

I'm struggling...

1 Reply Last post by whetu83 1 year ago

fuseb09 >> 08/03/2012 6:28pm

I can't help but wonder if its just me... But when I see a problem I'd rather deal with it (in any way possible). But it seems that when I open my mouth, trouble just arises. I must be the only one who sees sense when it happens, and I'm the only one who'll ever speak about it. A lot of the time is, because it pisses me off and I have to say something and the other times is because I have no idea about whats going on... I've always been told that 'I never know when to shut up' and lately it feels like I dont know when to drop it, leave it alone.
I don't know why I feel so frustrated and that I have to get things that don't make sense to me, to make sense to me. But now I feel its my enemy. A lot of people don't like me because I may come off as aggressive. I feel as though I have no escape and I consider myself to be a strong person that can assure myself daily with positive affirmations. But these little things that tend to frustrate me ruin everything for me.. And whats even more annoying is that it gradually builds - like a snowball affect. I'd discuss something that's not making sense to me, get on my band wagon and fight people on their way of looking at the issue. I realise that everyones entitled to their opinion, but for the life of me - I have to be the one that has the last say. And its like I have to convince people to see it from my point of view lol (very stubborn). This usually ends up in a resentfulness feeling towards each other. Where no ones happy and it seems because I'm the instigator!!!
Grrr I'm tired of feeling like this... When I'm happy I'm happy... When I'm not... you'll know., my whole world turns a darker shade. So yeah I'm struggling, don't even know if its being depressed even hahaha...

Replies:

whetu83 >> 11/03/2012 6:49pm

Wow, it seems like you know yourself well, which is not nessasarily a bad thing but have you ever given yourself a chance to quieten your mind? Silence can be a great healer. I know it sounds really 'new age' but if you spent even just one minute a day, just breathing, not thinking not talking, just listening to your breathe or counting in and out to 4, the benefits can be quite amazing! After years of saying i would try meditating, only just recently i decided to give it a go (in bed before I went to sleep) I lay there I tried hard to clear my mind, when I drifted into a thought i brought my focus back to my breathes and as long as I had tried for 1 minute i was happy with my effort. The next day I found myself calmer in my reactions to my kids and able to make decisions quite clearly. I tried it again that night and the next day same result-calm, level headed, peaceful. I missed the next night and I found myself irritable and snappy the following day. I am certain this breathing exercise helps me, I hope it helps you too! Good luck!

Feeling overwhelmed with anxiety!

3 Replies Last post by Chelsea_is_the_moonshine 1 year ago

ben_tallboy >> 05/03/2012 1:07pm

Im always the person you look to when your feeling down, Im always the person with the right advice and yet i feel i can't help myself. I know i should just stop thinking about it but it just bounces around never wanting to let go of me, from the littlest things i now become overwhelmed i get sweaty palms i find myself breathing heavily and even concentrating on how I'm breathing which makes me paranoid about my breathing. Anxiety seems so minimal and easy to deal with but its got me! A guy use to hard times and having to be tough for everyone around me, so why now??? why can't i make that feeling go away???
Any advice would be really appreciated cheers!

Replies:

Chelsea_is_the_moonshine >> 11/03/2012 9:11am

Yeah i too have always been the one who people have looked too for help. All my life i have been the perfect child, top of every class, dux, im even in a professional programe at uni this year and now sometimes it seems like now i cannot tell people that im not perfect that sometimes i just want to cry because my day hasn't gone as expected but on the outside i must maintain my facade of the perfect child although i know that we must not strive for perfect as we can never achieve that unatainable goal we must strive to be just good enough "our best"

Megmichaela >> 07/03/2012 11:30pm

Telling someone seems like the absolute most terrifying option (and it is when you're doing it) but 5 minutes later it's like a weight's been lifted off your shoulders. It sounds like you've been there for heaps of people, and you can be sure they'll all be there for you when you need it :) good luck!

Brittany.. >> 05/03/2012 7:38pm

wow, this sounds exactly how i used to feel. sad enough but all you can do i plod on, maybe get some help from counsellor, adult or a gp. but stick it out. youre not alone. im not saying it will be easy, heck, but youre not alone.

Too many things

Last post by maxrox910 1 year ago

maxrox910 >> 06/03/2012 5:51pm

I just started middle school and am feeling overwhelmed I lost my best friend to another school and they are really lucky to have her I feel as though I have too much pressure put on me because we have a lot more homework and I am expected to do well because I am good at everything but I dont like being good at everything im at a year 9 level in reading and im only a year 7 I feel as though Ive got too much pressure and too much to do I dont see my dad that much so thats really annoying and I just hate my life at the moment

help me

3 Replies Last post by b....... 1 year ago

b....... >> 01/03/2012 10:21pm

I have PND and I need helpm please I get anxiety to and I don't know weather to take the medication...

Replies:

b....... >> 04/03/2012 12:12pm

Hi I have had PND to my son is 10 months and I have been suffering eversince a week after he had been born I have not taken the medication but I am finding the courage to do it allthough I am scared of what it might do to me I''m sure that it is only my panic attacks that are getting in the way of me doing something that will benifit me, take it from me you don't want to go on right up untill you have had enough because it really suck's when I get over that bump and start taking them I may just be able to be stable again PND is not nice and anxiety is just OVER THE TOP but please don't do what I did and work yourself up into a panic as 10 months is to long and baby will be starting to click on that mummy is not okay i remember when he cried and I had just had a fight with my mum i blocked him out right up untill Bamb I cried and shouted shut up son shut up I knew then that I needed to do something I could'nt do it alone behaviour therapy worked for my anxiety but not my depression so maybe you might want to give that A shot to I hope all turn's out well for you I know exactly how you feel be strong and hopefully you will be better take care.

MamaOne >> 02/03/2012 9:03pm

Hi, I think I have PND too, but my Dr just said that because I was anxious & kind of depressed before the baby it can't be PND? I am unsure. I hit breaking point in the last few days, my baby is over 4m old and I can't believe how quickly it has gone and how much I feel like I have 'wasted time'. I really need help, it is ruining my relationship.
I think it is depression, but sometimes its hard to know isn't it?

What are you feeling?

charlotte1234 >> 02/03/2012 4:35pm

Take the medication.

Why me?

2 Replies Last post by CheChe22 1 year ago

jasmineT >> 19/09/2011 10:44pm

I have been through abuse, my best friend dying in year 7, my sister having Bipoler, my mum being an alcohlic, my dad addicted to meth, my stepdad abusive, my brother hit by a truck and died last year, my best friend died this year and my best guy mate not to soon after her. I get bullied at school and i just dont understand why it all has to happen to me. My friends all seem to have amazing lives and i just have to put on a smile and pretend, but there is only so much i can pretend. i cry myself to sleep at night and i see no way out. I feel trapped! Do other people feel like this!?

Replies:

CheChe22 >> 03/03/2012 10:54pm

Hi there, I am 16, i ask myself why me every single day i am going threw a really tough time atm, i have depression ive been in a mental unit recently, i feel for you i really do. i just wanted to tell you that u must be such a strong person to go threw all that horrible stuff, keep ya head u please, good luck with evrything i hope you start to feel better

nessaleigh >> 22/09/2011 7:38pm

Know the saying 'been to hell & back' I understand where u r coming from,not had same stuff happen to me but understand....I honestly feel like I've been cursed with all the crap I've been through, but counselling really helps..may be hard at first but it does help.....Sadly u cant just bury all bad that happens to you,somethings just need help healing!! Try thinking positive it may sound dorky but wake up nd think good morning world today is going to be a good day...think of all the positives it really does make life abit easier =D
Best of Luck

New Life?

Last post by kellyweber 1 year ago

kellyweber >> 03/03/2012 12:33am

Hi.
I am 21 years old, and in August 2011 I fell pregnant with my first child. At the time I was studying full-time at University and working part time. I was engaged at the time, and in Janurary this year I moved overseas, from New Zealand to Switzerland, married my fiance, and now live with him and his family so that he could continue to study at University.

I have struggled with depression and low self esteem my whole life, and now I am afraid as those feelings have come back very strong. The native language here is German, I am only just learning it and the locals here are not comfortable with me speaking English, therefore it is a struggle for me to go anywhere. I have no friends or family here as all of mine are in New Zealand, and I find it difficult to make friends here in Switzerland because of the language barrier, the fact that I am almost 7 months pregnant with no job, money and I am not studying, it makes me feel very insecure.

I can't work here because I do not yet have the correct visa to do so, and I cannot study here because of my low German levels-I would not be accepted into University.

I feel very iscolated and alone, and it is making me very doubtful that I can and am ready to raise my baby. I have tried talking to my husband and his family about it but they claim that I ma just making things out to be worse than they are. I don't like feeling this way, and I don't know what to do.

Please help.

Not Getting Better

2 Replies Last post by b....... 1 year ago

judemg >> 31/10/2010 11:13pm

On the 15/9/10 I was put on anti depressants an put under a mental health team. Over the course of a few weeks we gradually increased my dosage. For 3 weeks now I have been on the highest dose and also taking sleeping tablets. But I am not feeling much better and I thought I would have been by now. I am also still not sleeping well only getting 5-6 hours a night and that is with taking two sleeping tablets. Can somebody tell me how long it will take for me to start feeling better.

Replies:

b....... >> 02/03/2012 11:45pm

I heard it may take 4 to 6 weeks to kick in I need ssri's but I am to scared to take them.

Jay_JWLH >> 01/11/2010 3:57pm

Honestly I wouldn't be able to tell you, but I suppose you can always compare against other people who have gone through something similar. Plus there is no switch over period, unless one day you just might make the decision that things are finally different. Try not to take it as some sort of countdown until everything is over. Just take it one better day at a time.

The good thing is that you are getting some help, and that you are getting some sleep. There may be some other choices you can make for yourself, such as how you handle your time, and what you do before going to sleep (e.g. exercising). Maybe some improvements in your diet can help you in some way.

i think i need help

1 Reply Last post by hurt4lyfe2me 1 year ago

hurt93 >> 21/02/2012 7:43pm

when i was 14 i ran away from home and got taken back home from the cops, and when i was 15 i was raped by 5 guys no one else knows apart from some of my family members. through all my teen years ive either ran away or never made my parents proud, i hate myself for that. i used to drink til i was drunk to forget the pain. my mum left my dad when i was 8 months old, and got re-married again when i was 6 and we moved here in new zealand. it was really hard for me. at school i used to get bullied cause i was asian, guys used to always ask me stupid questions like "how much" and all that. since growing up here, i've always moved around and moved schools so i pretty much lost my good friends and became bad. i used to be a good girl and always listened to my parents and never did anything stupid, but since changing schools and trying to fit in...just made me a different person, i dropped out of school when i was 14. i got pregnant with my boyfriend when i was 16, we had everything together but my parents didn't agree because he was poor...so i never got to see him after i was about 5 months pregnant. after my daughter was born he made contact with me again when she was 2 months. i know i sound stupid but i think all i wanted was a real family, the one i never had. some days i get verbally abused by my step dad, and my mum has had an affair but my step dad doesnt know...i feel like i have too much stress on my shoulders. some days i dont sleep at night cause it feels like its the only time i have for myself, so i end up waking up late. and so i get growed at by my step dad. but some nights idont get much sleep cause of my daughter casue i still breastfeed cause she wont take bottles. but some days i get a good sleep and i still find myself tired and just want to sleep till its a better day. for a while now, i have pushed myself away from all of my friends and dont want to see anyone..even plunket mum meetings and stuff. i feel like i have no energy, i just wished i could be a better mother and person. i have alot more storiers but i dont want to rant on too much. is there anyone that can help me?

Replies:

hurt4lyfe2me >> 02/03/2012 12:26am

I know that I am probably in no position to say this because I am most definitely younger than you. But I think that you just need someone there for you. Someone there to hold you and tell you how much they love you. You've been put in a spot where you didn't want to be. I also think that you just need to talk to someone. You need support and you'll find yourself hopefully to a brighter tomorrow

17 with PND

Last post by b....... 1 year ago

b....... >> 01/03/2012 12:32pm

Hi i''m 17 with postnatal depression and I also have anxiety this happend a week after giving birth, I used to get panic attacks excessivly like nearly everyday, but its now calming down, the doctor gave me some pills and I am scared to take them I don't know why but I need some guidence, if anyone can hep that would be great, I also have heard trial them but thats not helping I really am looking for ansewrs now as this has just swooped over me and it is interfering with my life..

im depressed

Last post by nico thomson 1 year ago

nico thomson >> 29/02/2012 10:07pm

Why am i depressd i feel like i hate myself

feeling pretty useless @ the moment

Last post by kamahlPeyroux 1 year ago

kamahlPeyroux >> 29/02/2012 8:59pm

dunno what to do

Scared of myself.

2 Replies Last post by charlotte1234 1 year ago

savemefrommyself >> 20/02/2012 7:24pm

I'm so scared of myself, when i'm alone i start to think and it gets really graphic. i have nightmares of my family dieing and they scare me to death. i never accept a compliment i always fight it. Now i started going to sessions at the local hospital and it scares me that i'm that bad.

I JUST FEEL HOLLOW.

Replies:

sandwich >> 28/02/2012 5:08pm

The last two years ive had dreams that bad things will happen to people I care about, but combined with everything else i dont know whats wrong with me

charlotte1234 >> 29/02/2012 8:49pm

Woah. I so know what you mean! Remember,you ARE NOT alone. I also have very graphic thoughts and having panic attacks. If people do give you compliments,its not because they just felt like it. Its because they TRUELY mean it. ITS SO GREAT THAT YOU ARE GOING TO SESSIONS! I suggest,having a diary and writing down EVERY feelings you have and maybe even some of the nightmares and taking it to the hospital and showing someone! I also find that drinking water helps:)
Hope this has helped you. Im always here. Your'e beautiful:) xxx

seemingly friendless

Last post by Jeremy18 1 year ago

Jeremy18 >> 29/02/2012 3:51pm

after a minor mistake that i made once with a girl all my friends that were her friends too just suddenly started ignoring me and stopped contacting me. right now i feel like a complete looser and a total failure to life, i have even tryed contcting them but yeah you get it. noones seems to want my friendsship all i have now is my mum and and sis, the rest live in The Netherlands (as i have immigrated about 11 years ago)
and to make matter just a bit more daunting is that i have started to develop a bit of a likeness for a freind that is a friend of that other chick. my mind is going crazy and its taking me to become even more depressed

Crisis Teams

Last post by emma 1 year ago

emma >> 28/02/2012 10:03pm

Has anyone ever rung the crisis team and been hung up on and then rung later on like a week later or something and been hung up on again?

Postnatal depression help

1 Reply Last post by holdontohope 1 year ago

amzee >> 22/01/2012 10:55pm

I dont know wat is wrong with me but for the last few months (my son is 8 months) i have felt really down like my life isnt worth living. i have no energy and cry all the time but i love my son to bits and want to b with him all the time can someone please help

Replies:

holdontohope >> 28/02/2012 9:33pm

Dear amzee

Sorry to hear that you are having such a dificult time..don't worry as with the right help and support you will be able to feel emotionally stronger again...nursing a baby, sleep deprivation, hormonal changes and often feeling isolated and disconnected all adds up to feeling low in mood and lots of tears. There is excellent help available either in the form of support groups for mothers, free counselling, medication options and if you qualify there are maternal mental health clinicians attached to your local DHB's community mental health service..the starting point to feeling better again so that you can enjoy your little one is with your GP. they can provide you with information on treatment options for PND or refer you to the maternal mental health services in your region. there are also some excellent websites including www.mothersmatter.co.nz and the ante and postnatal support group for mothers online.
Good luck and although it is hard to ask for help these times with your baby are precious and it requires you to take care of yourself so you can enjoy motherhood and the journey ahead of you.

Welcome to our latest member: xantheb6