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Everyone treats me horribly and I don't know why

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pinkglitter1997 >> 10/06/2012 4:04pm

I have this friend.. every time it's just me and her she treats me so nicely! but everytime we are with other people she treats me very badly. For example... I come to school and see her with her friends I go up to her and say ''heyy!!! :D'' to her and her friends and shes like ''........hi?....'' and this makes me embarrsed and upset, so i walk off. Then when it is just me and her she runs up to me and is like ''HEYY!!!!!!!!! :D :D :D'' and I be nice back, but if I treat her the way that she treats me she will hate me so much!! like on facebook she had this picture of her with different hair that she drew and it was fake and I was like ''HEYY YOU CHANGED YOUR HAIR HAHA IT LOOK SO COOL!!!:D X'' and this girl who dosn't like me who I don't like back who is one of her best friends was like ''^^^???'' and I said ''its just a joke (:'' and this girl *(the one i'm telling the story about) was like ''ummm you spelt its wrong. it's* '' and this made me so sad. this is only ONE EXAMPLE. She treats me very badly and she and the girl I don't like are both in my class. What the heck do I do!! D:
No school counsellor. went therre didn't help.

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Grateful :) >> 12/06/2012 11:35am

Hi,

It sounds like she is just a horrible friend. I'd try to recognise that she has problems being genuine, and that this is about her, not about you. You deserve to be treated better. Cut her out and find new friends.

feeling lonely and sad ,

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dinny.oreilly >> 10/06/2012 9:17pm

someties during the day i would just cry unexpectidly , i just felt like no one was there for me and no one wanted to listen , i was so emotional and i felt left-out and i just wanted to go and stop caring for myself.

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Grateful :) >> 12/06/2012 11:32am

Hi Dinny,

Crying for no reason is a very common symptom in people suffering from clinical depression. I would recommend talking to your doctor about either starting medication or changing your current medication. You might also benefit from counseling.

Don't give up! Things can get better, but you're going to have to do the work of contacting the right people and making your mental well-being a priority :)

i feel sad and empty

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samantha1594 >> 10/06/2012 12:05am

hi im samantha im 13 and latly ive been going through alot like ive been bullied for years now and its starting to get much worse, my mum and dad have been fighting non stop, my sister doesn't know how to help herself, and ive lost pretty much all of my friends im not sure if it is depression but ive felt sad for months and i feel so empty and like i have no one to talk to ive been seeing the school councillor which hasnt helped much. everyday i feel worse and i feel like my life is falling apart, i havent been eating much or concentrating, i never care about anything anymore except when im hurt, i dont know what to do and i really need someone to talk to or someone to help me.

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pinkglitter1997 >> 10/06/2012 4:15pm

Stay strong and prove those bullies wrong! You beautiful and they might like you or are jealous! xxoo

pinkglitter1997 >> 10/06/2012 3:49pm

It will be okay. just take some time to relax and maybe get a job like a paper run so when you walk you can get your head clear and then you will have money to buy nice things for yourself and sister hehehe and prove those bullies wrong when you come to school with chocolate bars and awesome pens and pencils!! just imagine, what will life be like in ten years? it wil be amazing. you will be an adult and out of uni starting your dream job and you will get money to buy awesome clothes and show em off! i've been bullied and the best thing to do is (i know people say don't react and ignore) just say worse stuff back! haha! some guy called me ugly mud skin and i have no acne so ii went rage at him and he shut up. STAY STRONG!!

Grateful :) >> 10/06/2012 7:53pm

Hi Samantha,

It sounds like you have a lot of difficult things going on in your life. Because of that, it'll be hard to tell whether your depression is chronic or a result of your present circumstances. But if you've felt this way for over 3-4 months, I would recommend asking your GP about antidepressants.

Ya, I didn't have a great experience with school counselors either. The quality of counselors can REALLY vary. It's important to find a good match. If this one isn't working for you, don't give up on counseling right away, as it can be super helpful, especially in giving you the tools to deal with the kinds of frustrating experiences you're having to put up with. I would recommend searching for a new counselor. Maybe if your mum and dad are not people you feel comfortable talking to at the moment, you could ask a friend to help you? Also, if you tell your school counselor that you would like to seek more regular outside help from another counselor, he or she should hopefully have a list of names they could give you. Hopefully your counselor won't take you asking for a referral to another counselor personally. If your current counselor does though, don't let it get to you. It's just another indication that they're not a very good counselor.

Best of luck!

helpingmaybe >> 11/06/2012 12:05am

There seems to be a lot of challenges and conflict in your life samantha and that can definitely be overwhelming. Your school counsellor will not have an instant cure but you need to ensure that you emphasize the extent of issues you are currently facing and how it is impacting on your day to day life - be as open and honest as possible. If you do not feel that you are getting the help that you need it may help to contact other services eg youthline.

A method I have used before, and it sounds silly and will feel stupid, is starting the day with a positive self affirmation or quote. Before you have to face the world, take a moment and start the day on the positive note by thinking about something you are looking forward to, reminding yourself of something positive you like about yourself or find a positive quote and put it somewhere you can clearly see when you wake up and read it in the morning.

I like this one "You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world's happiness now. How? By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged. Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime."
Dale Carnegie.

It reminds me to verbalise my appreciation to the people around me, which when I am down I sometimes forget to do. I make an effort to put forward genuine positive comments to the people around me of go out of my way to do something for others - some may react more positively than others, but you will find over time that it will be a positive experience.

When the one you love wants someone else.

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NoCake >> 06/06/2012 10:26pm

We started dating in November and moved in together in February.
He asked to cool things down a few weeks ago because he realised he isn't over the girl he was trying to date before me. This I can handle, it's not ideal, but it's not world destroying.
I started sleeping in my own room again but still sleeping in his bed occasionally.
But then he started bringing a female friend over or staying at her place a couple nights a week. Now she's at our place almost every night of the week and even slept in his bed on Sunday.
I've told him it's really messing with my head to see this going on and he reassures me that they are just friends and it's nothing more.
So now I get to come home each night and find the man I love cuddling on the couch with another girl.
I'm trying to move on and be ok.
But I'm not ok. I'm just... not ok.

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pinkglitter1997 >> 10/06/2012 3:51pm

Move out and start fresh, honestly if he is going to do this then just let him go. He obviously doesn't deserve your attention. There would be heaappss of other guys that want your attention, you just need to find them x

helpingmaybe >> 10/06/2012 11:36pm

Move out. You deserve better than this and having to deal with this situation day in day out will wear down you soul.

You have been honest with him about how it makes you feel, he has shown no respect for your feelings. If he is showing so little respect for you this early in a relationship, it will not change.

To be honest, sounds as though he is either immature or has little respect for women and either way it is not something that you need in your life - and he is not your problem to fix.

Grateful :) >> 08/06/2012 12:10pm

Hi,

That sounds really rough. If it were me, I think I'd move out. It doesn't sound like he's treating you very respectfully.

aishria01 >> 10/06/2012 7:31am

of course i can understand where you are coming from these lieing hun men will always say a girl is just a friend. tell him to leave or you leave because you will just feel down and attract negitive feelings with him around tell him and his friend to bounce i bet if you did the same he wouldnt allow it you deseve respect and you shouldint have to put up with that if your sleeping in his room now and again he knows he has some control over you take care smile everything will be ok

Need help asap

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Ifeellost >> 09/06/2012 1:46pm

I feel depressed and all I want
To do is crawl in a dark hole. I don't know what to do with my life anymore.
I need help

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Grateful :) >> 10/06/2012 7:43pm

Hi,

That sucks. Have you considered talking to a doctor about antidepressants? I've been there before, and things tend not to get better on their own.

Have you had any especially depression-triggering events happen in your life lately?

Don't give up :)

dinny.oreilly >> 10/06/2012 9:53pm

i feel the same way as you do....

Needing advice.

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Twinkletoess >> 08/06/2012 11:08pm

So I know I've always had depression and a family with illnesses and such. But recently it has became too much. I wake up everyday just not feeling "alive" as I did when I was younger. I don't see the spark anymore. Everyday feels like a drag. I don't sleep at night because my brain is so awake and I feel lonely at night. I've had Friends who talk to eachother about there depression but I can't bring myself to chat to them so I keep it to myself. I find myself crying about 3 times daily. And I don't feel loving towards the people who cared the most. My family have been quite stroppy for the past 3 years I've been noticing. It's just 3 of us dad mum and me. I get so Hurt over the smallest stuff. Being yelled at. I just don't know. I feel so lost and I think I will snap soon. Please help :((

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Grateful :) >> 10/06/2012 8:01pm

Hi there,

Thanks for having the courage to post here :) I know it can be really hard to reach out, especially if you are afraid of what people will think.

Although it can be very uncomfortable reaching out, it's also vital if you suffer from depression to avoid self-isolating. It's important to have people you can talk to and rely on if you're going to start the process of recovery. Not that it's great that your friends have depression, but it is great that you have friends with depression who are open enough to talk about it! Sounds like the beginnings of an excellent support network to me :)

Have you been formally diagnosed with depression? If so, are you currently on any medications for it? When you say "illnesses", do you mean that your family has a history of depression? If so, have any of them tried to get treatment for it?

Finding a counselor might be really helpful. It took a couple of tries for me to get one that was a good fit, but they're very useful in helping you develop better coping mechanisms for addressing depressive episodes.

The first step toward recovery is seeking out help. Please do, and try to keep faith in yourself. You can get better :)

ectopic pregnancy

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Jessica1989 >> 08/06/2012 2:45pm

Hey im a 22 year old single mum of a 1 year old boy, and recently had an ectopic pregnancy which caused a lot of internal bleeding and i also had to have my left tube removed, im still greiving for my baby i lost and on top of that my partner cheated on me with someone else who is pregnant, I feel sad all the time and feel like nothing will ever get better and il be depressed forever.

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Grateful :) >> 10/06/2012 7:55pm

Hi Jessica,

Wow, that sounds unbelievably harsh. I hope you know that you deserve to be treated better than that. Have you considered seeking counseling? It can be really useful to talk out your grievances with someone who is trained to know how to handle things.

I know it feels like it now, but if you take steps toward helping yourself get better, you won't be depressed forever. Don't give up!

emotionless

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kaylacollins >> 09/06/2012 7:20pm

Feeling like i've got no emotions or don't know how i'm feeling. Most days feeling depressed, really don't want to loose my bf but he's going distant and doesn't show any interest in me, we have a child together too.

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Grateful :) >> 10/06/2012 7:46pm

Hi Kayla,

Feeling emotionally numb is not uncommon for people who suffer from depression. Have you considered talking to a doctor about your symptoms? I found that things for me didn't get better until I started taking the right meds and got into counseling. If you find you are depressed on a regular basis and it hasn't gone away yet, it's unlikely to go away without professional intervention.

Best of luck and please don't give up on yourself. You can recover from this :)

i dont get it

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bvbarmy >> 10/06/2012 4:39pm

i font get it i feel sad but i cant cry its like i have no emotion what so ever and ive been feeling like this for about 3 years and its getting worse, whats wron and why am i like this?

lost my mother,grandfather

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zahzah >> 05/06/2012 8:22pm

im just soo tired of everything. stressed at school now think i am gay

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pinkglitter1997 >> 10/06/2012 3:55pm

I'm so sorry. My dad will be moving away soon and I know how hard it is. Just Imagine what life will be like in 10 years. You will have your dream job and money to spend! A saying that I always tell myself is ''The only reason why we are in high school is so we can get to uni'' <--- high school is annoying I know but just get through it and once you are through life is AWESOME!! I'm 15 and honestly hate high school. stay strong! <3 xx

Grateful :) >> 07/06/2012 1:24am

Hi there,

I'm sorry for your loss :/ This sounds like a lot of stress and uncertainty to be dealing with alone. Have you considered talking to a counselor? I've found counseling very helpful :) And if you're having sexual identity confusion, they're usually quite non-judgmental.

Need help

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Dutch32 >> 06/06/2012 7:40pm

My life has no purpose. I'm lonely, socially awkward and have lost all my friends just by being an unsociable, pessimistic

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pinkglitter1997 >> 10/06/2012 3:53pm

I don't know how old you are but just make your life have a purpose, do some community work and that will really make you feel good, maybe do some painting or sewing and baking then sell them at a market!! that's always really fun :) stay strong and don't give up.

Grateful :) >> 08/06/2012 12:11pm

Hi,

Have you considered talking to a counselor? I find they can be really useful if you find your current approach to life is not working.

Twinkletoess >> 08/06/2012 11:14pm

hi. I had a friend like this and I made sure I chatted and invited him out most weekends, maybe if u have Facebook or some people who u may find interesting u could just say a simple hello to them. U never know it could lead to a person u find interesting and enjoy to hang out with and spend time chatting to. Sorry not much help. But it could be worth a go if ur willing to. Explore outside the box. The world is truely a beautiful place and even if it's hard sometimes ur life is what u make it. Look around for inspiration. Being around someone positive may change ur look on life :) hope I was of any help

SamiJ0e >> 09/06/2012 2:44am

i know how that feels, i lost all my friends when i lost my daughter, i shut everyone out :(

I want it to stop

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RubySM >> 30/05/2012 3:31pm

I've been feeling really down and can't stop crying. University is getting too much, I've left home and am feeling guilty about it as i am the last one to leave and my parents are now by themselves. I've had depression before and got better, but in the last week or so I've gone downhill fast

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rotasgurl >> 06/06/2012 2:11pm

I too have been in this situation struggling with depression. Sometimes you just need to take some time out and reacharge your batteries. Look at the reasions why you are at uni and the positive future you ar working towards. Counselling can definatly help, spending time with supportive friends.Remembering things in life which were funny and happy times focusing on those happy feelings. A good book to read is 'Treasure Yourself" by Miranda Kerr. Fantastic positive uplifting book which can help if you feeling down.

Eat well, exersize, and get plenty of sleep.

sherlock.km >> 31/05/2012 9:34pm

Hi Ruby. good on you for reaching out for help. I battled depression while I was at uni and know how tough it can be. Most universities have counsellors and/or doctors on site - maybe it would be a good idea to go and talk to someone so you can get some extra support - both with studies and your mood. if you'd be open to it maybe talk to your parents as well? they might surprise you!
Arohanui, Kia Kaha

Grateful :) >> 01/06/2012 10:01pm

Hi Ruby,

I've found with my own depression that when I stop monitoring it and forget about it for a while, it tends to rear its ugly head again and come back more severely. It might be necessary to keep a more active eye on how you're doing, to catch yourself early on if your lows start returning. Have you ever sought counseling?

As far as your parents being alone, I wouldn't feel guilty about that. They're going through a transitionary period, as are you, but they're adults and they can learn to figure it out. It's good to be supportive of your family, but do make sure you're taking care of yourself.

How do i help some one with depression

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hana123 >> 04/06/2012 10:11pm

My friend just admitted that she thinks she has depression but her doctors would not comment on it and
she has asked me for help to get her some counselling.....where would i start
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Grateful :) >> 06/06/2012 12:05am

Hi Hana,

Just wondering what you mean when you say her doctors would not comment on it.

Probably the best thing for you to do right now is to learn as much as you can about depression so that you can help support her. If she's only just figured out, she probably doesn't know what's going on either, and will likely be having a lot of new, unstable, and frustrating experiences. Remember that she may get mad, sad, and be unpleasant to be around sometimes. In these cases, try to separate her from the depression. Depression changes one's brain chemistry and strongly impacts one's emotions, which influences one's actions.

How old are you? If you are still in school, maybe ask around to see whether your school has counseling services. Most universities will have free counseling, and I have found that these are very good. Alternatively, try searching your town or city's name online, along with "registered counselors". Please keep in mind that sometimes it can take a few tries to find a counselor that is a good fit. If she finds that she really doesn't like her first counselor, that doesn't mean she should give up on counseling altogether. It just means that that counselor isn't a good match for her, and she should look for someone different.

Good on you for wanting to be supportive :) You sound like a good friend.

Lying Everyday...

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benny05 >> 04/06/2012 10:41pm

Hi everybody

Like the title suggests, I lie everyday to those who love and care for me. My parents, friends, everybody. They believe that I'm doing great in school (I'm failing), that I'm doing even better in church and that I'm generally happy. The truth is, when I feel deep anxiety, I hurt myself and this relieves me. The truth is, I feel like a burden and a hypocrite for lying,
Some days I KNOW I have what it takes to be successful, but in the end that feeling of hopelessness and not knowing who I am or what I'm meant to do overwhelms me. I have no job, I'm failing school and it frustrates me not being able to talk about it, I know I'm responsible for myself, which makes me hate myself more. I feel like I have no direction and don't know who I am at all. I just don't know anything anymore and so basically I'm just...at the end I guess smh.

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Grateful :) >> 05/06/2012 11:57pm

Hi Benny,

Don't give up! And please don't hurt yourself.

Is there a particular reason why you feel like you can't talk to your parents or friends? Are you worried they will judge you? I find that I personally feel much better when I get my feelings out to someone, as putting them into words helps me understand what I'm going through.

Also, it's better to rely on others than to try to fix everything by yourself. Society tends to project this image of the morally good individual as being completely self-reliant, but I've never found that it's a good idea to try to replicate that in practice. These kinds of social expectations are like romance movies: never realistic, and chasing after them tends to result in frustration.

If you're hurting yourself, what you're experiencing should not be taken lightly. I would recommend talking to a doctor and considering counseling. I've found antidepressants incredibly helpful, and counselors often have good advice about how to deal with challenges in a mentally healthy way :)

Reaching out.

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ekuL >> 05/06/2012 12:37pm

Howsit going. I just wanted to post up something about what im going through atm.
I am going through some deep depression. It just came out of the blue... I know I have a low self of steam most times. I dont do the things i use too. Like play sport, hit the gym, go out places with friends. All my interests have gone out the window. I have been down this road before and it was much worse...I learnt from that and I had a plan..Now I feel like this isnt going to work and it wont go away.

I know what triggerd it...but are these feelings inside me waiting to be set off by something all the time?

Thank you for letting me share.

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Grateful :) >> 05/06/2012 11:50pm

Hi :)

Thanks for sharing. Have you ever talked to a counselor or asked a doctor about antidepressants? If you've had these feeling before and they keep coming back, that's probably an indication that they're not going to go away without professional assistance.

Best of luck. Don't feel like you have to do this alone.

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