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I can't tell wither I am depressed?!?!?! HELP

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Ms.Confused >> 21/12/2012 3:17pm

I took the test and it said I was, but then I can't believe it myself. I have told my friends, but they think I am just looking for attention and pass it off as nothing. I am so scared that my parents and/or family will find out. I am so confused wether I am just sad or depressed. HELP!

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Me. >> 03/05/2013 8:27pm

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I also took the test, it said i needed urgent help. I thought heck i must be depressed. I never fully understood depressiôn til i checked out this website. I had most of the symptoms for quite some time but use to think of it as just '1 of those days.' Couple months ago i believed it wasnt depression. I couldnt have that, its just a bad couple days ill get over it. And i would, til the next time something went wrong. Now that recently alot of things have been going wrong, financial worries, family conflicting, looking for work, being unsupported and having to do it on my own when im wanting help, plus the stress of others adding to my stress, id hit a point where i couldnt mentally cope anymore, i had felt it building up over 3 days. It all exploded over something little. Yesterday I Had a huge breakdown, a huge argument, things were broken, Inside my head was a huuuge mess of mixed feelings i didnt want to feel anymore. I hated everything and the sight and sound of anyone. I ended up crying alone in my room. I thought about depression again. I remembered the tv ad and looked up this website (as i was saying in the beginning) and its helped me come to an understanding where i realised other ways out of my situation, positive rather than negative ways. Im now in the process of getting myself to a better place. Ive realised there is someone who can and will be willing to help me. no matter how hard its gonna get im determined to beat it and im making sure to remind myself of that everyday from lastnight onwards hoping to keep that positive thinking for as long as i can, and try to not get to that breaking point again. Since the argument ive kept to myself in my room and still noone has cared to even ask if i was ok. All i will do is try my best

Today I told my friends.

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Georgina >> 07/03/2013 6:20pm

I've recently learnt that i have depression, its actually really hard to come to terms with things to be honest a lot of people eg my family have been telling me that its just because Im over school and Im over tired, although they may be related Ive been getting upset a lot lately over small things and sometimes over nothing. After about 4 months Ive learnt that i needed to tell my dad how i was feeling and that it wasn't because of the stress of exams and the fact that i had just recently broken up with my boyfriend. it was beyond that. a lot more complicated i cant explain why i get upset i cant explain my panick attacks. i thought it was time to let them know. So after a few bad nights and bad days i realized that my friends, only a few needed to know what was actually happening. It took a lot of courage and a lot of strength to tell them it was hard to say that im no longer able to cope with things but once we got talking about it i was this huge weight off my shoulders, like they know i don't have to hide this anymore as much as i want to. IM not going to, im going to fight this and im going to beat this and get better. im going to be okay, it just going to take time and im going to get help and im going to talk. there's no need to do this on my own.

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Me. >> 03/05/2013 6:57pm

I think u are brave as well and great to see it had a positive outcome. I think, what if I told my friends? But then i get put off by the thoughts, how will they react, how will they judge me, do they really understand or will it just make me feel even more sorry for myself, will it really help me if i told them. I dont want the pity so I have never told my friends ,when i should because i know for sure my family arent able to help me. Maybe in time

RILEY >> 07/03/2013 8:56pm

i think you're very brave and you've done the right thing. i'm only thirteen and my friends and i have been through a lot of drama so we know how you feel.

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Me. >> 03/05/2013 2:01pm

Does anyone else have younger siblings that annoy the hell out of you. Theyre lazy, inconsiderate, selfish, would never go out of their way for anyone. I myself am trying my best to cope with job seeking, maintaining the house, figuring out where i want to go what i want to do in life and how im going to get there. 3 of us siblings live together, 1 has a baby, we're all under the age of 25. No supportive parents. They split a couple years ago and are now staying with their current partners. Their priorities are messed up so they couldnt help me or my siblings if they bothered to try. I am constantly giving. Rides to town. Money for food when i have little money myself. Constantly going out of my way for others cos thats just the type of person i am. Im not a self-absorbed person. I like others to be happy and hide that im unhappy myself to the best of my ability. I get on with what i have to in life, i registered with a consulting group recently who help and assist u when job seeking. Lately things havent been working out and its all happening all at once. Job hunting, car problems, family conflict, financial stress!! is the worst. With all this going on its hard to cope and I have random breakdowns, or if anyone asks, am i ok? Is there something i want to talk about, are there issues i need help with. I am trying my hardest hold back the tears. I dont want to feel vulnerable or weak in front of anyone, i just cope. I have no family support within my family the one person who always goes out of his way to help me is helping with other family issues overseas at the moment i dont want to bother him with my problems at this time. Everytime i come home i just want to relax and chill out in peace and harmony. Everytime i get home, the house is in piles/stacks of me ss waiting for me to clean it, cos noone else has the decency to clean after themselves. I try to ask the siblings to clean, it always starts an argument. Then they start to call me useless, telling me im crazy, ive got problems in my head, im jealouse of them cos they have everything and i have nothing. They have never worked a day in their lives for anything. She especially, has sat on her lazy but day in day out, arguiin with whoever she can, living carefree and adding to my stress!! Here i am looking for what would be my 7th job in the last 5yrs since i left school. I know what its like to work hard for what i want and not have it handed to me on the dpb. I would rather work for the things i want! I especially dont need all the name calling!! It pisses me right off. No way in hell am i jealous or crazy. Just mad!i dont even want to see my friends anymore, they make plans i dont want to be a part of it. I make plans, they cant make it. So ive just been keeping to myself lately. Deleted my social network pages so i cant be in contact with anyone. Those are things i usually enjoy but now i just feel down in the dumps, with my appetite. And i love food! But ive been peckish lately and only eat little amounts i have to force myself to eat more. Constantly only just being able to cope day in and day out is wearing me down, mentally and my motivation to being physically fit and healthy just went out the door.

Since accessing all this great info lastnight through the lowdown website after a really bad day yesterday, its been a little pick-me-up, and its changed my state of mind from thinking bad things to wanting to get out of my current situation, finding a supportive environment and people and thinking positive. Since ive got to do it on my own its up to me

forever failing

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marshmellow >> 29/04/2013 10:47am

I have had depression for the past nine years
Everything I do I seem to fail at I can't get anything right
I have tried doing courses I've tried getting work I've tried doing things with my life but depression and anxiety always get the better of me and I fail
I see people around me like friends and family with lots of accomplishments in life and I have nothing
It makes me wonder why I'm even here wasting this life if I can't do anything right

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marshmellow >> 02/05/2013 4:51pm

I've tried a few different ones too I've just started back on venlafaxine was off if for several months not my choice was my very controlling ex.
I would love to b like most people and a have a job and b happy but as u say some days its hard to get the energy let alone the motivation to even have a shower and get dressed or eat.
Thanks for your reply

wolfman >> 01/05/2013 2:46pm

I too have the same feeling. It's like depression controls us, just an idea have you tried a different antidepressant? I went back to my doctor due to been on citalpram in various amounts with little or no effect for coming up 1 year now. I have just started on venlafaxine, seems to make things a bit better. In regards life I fail as well people don't seem to understand what we have to do performing even simple things some days as it turns to crap what we try. I hope this helps and wish you all the best.

I don't know what to do

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Beach >> 01/05/2013 3:37pm

I cry for no good reason, I will be having a good day and then out of the blue...BAM I start to think about all the things I think I have done wrong. If people at work wanted to talk about things I had done good or bad I would freak out! I left my job of 8 years, because i was feeling so low. I think the stress was making me so sick that my hair was falling out. Now I can't even think about going back to work without crying and im running out of money fast! With things like rent to pay and no money coming in, i dont know what im going to do. Sometimes I think my family don't get it, they keep asking me if I "have a job yet" and "how things are going on the job front" I know they are trying to be supportive but they say it I start crying. Im very lucky to have the life I do and don't understand why I feel this way when people out there have it a lot worst then I do. I need someone to tell me how to fix this.

nobody understands

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bobthebuilder >> 20/04/2013 8:22pm

everyone thinks they do but they reallly don't

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scared8016 >> 29/04/2013 9:21am

I can't totally relate to that. I can try to understand if you'd like? <3

escadachic >> 21/04/2013 11:13pm

why do you say that?

Could you maybe be open to the possibility that some of us might understand. Even if not everything from your perspective or experience. Some of us will understand at least some of it. Or we can try :-)

Always sad, always.

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Blackrose1567 >> 23/04/2013 8:56pm

When I was 7 my best friend died, she died from a blood clot in her brain. When I was younger I didnt know what that meant but I remembered that the day before I threw a ball at her head on accident. And at 7 years old I was able to blame myself for her death. I'm 17 now and have been deppressed for along time, I have lost mostly all my friends because I detatch myself from them without thinking. I have a loving boyfriend who is the only one I talk to. He hates me being depressed but I can't help it, what ever I try it never works. A lot of the time I distract myself by playing video games but the saddness always catches up to me. I am tired of feeling like this, and I think finally ready to ask for help.

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scared8016 >> 29/04/2013 9:19am

Wow. I'm so sorry about what happened to your best friend, I couldn't imagine loosing mine. It's lovely knowing you have someone who cares about you so much, someone to support you through this. <3

Arod >> 24/04/2013 11:20pm

Congratulations on taking such a brave step. I really reccomend you go and see a professional psychologist if you are able to as it sounds like you have some fears/ believes over your childhood friends death that you have been unable to shake and which you might know objectively aren't true but that doesen't change the way you feel does it?

I don't know what's wrong with me

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Bubblez_butt >> 14/03/2013 8:52am

I constantly feel like I'm not worth anyone's time I say I'm gonna change but I end up back in the state of mind where Im feeling worthless and as if I'm a failure I can't help it I cry most days I don't know what's wrong with me I feel like the old me the confident happy me is slipping away I can't even pursue my dreams of becoming a chef because I feel like I've already failed I had the most amazing boyfriend you could dream of and I pushed him away by slipping back in to this state of mind I don't understand why this is happening to me I feel like the world is sitting on my shoulders

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scared8016 >> 29/04/2013 9:14am

I'm so sorry about this. You are worth someones time. You are. Please don't cry I'm crying now reading this. I hate seeing people sad and you seem like an amazing person. Don't ever give up. <3

Arod >> 24/04/2013 11:33pm

That was really sad to read but you said you feel like the old confident you is slipping away which means you're their within grasp you just need a bit of help bringing this version of you to the surface. In your post you identified you got stuck in a negative way of thinking do you have a friend or someone who can help you see things more an objectively or an activity you love that you can do to distract yourself from the negative way of thinking.

Not sure what to do

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Helpless4321 >> 24/04/2013 8:06pm

Well I have been feeling really low for a few weeks now. I am overweight and trying to lose weight by going to the gym and eating healthy. In the last 2 weeks my weight has been yoyoing and I have also had odema for which I am on tablets for. I have lots of stress in my life at the moment with a teenage daughter with mental health problems, moving house and all the weight issues. I have not been diagnoses with depression but when I do all the online tests it comes out at severe/major depression. I had a breakdown last week at the doctors and in the middle of town and again today. Nearly anything is setting me off in tears and it does not take much for me to get angry. I hate feeling like this but am at a loss as of what to do. Any help please?????

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scared8016 >> 29/04/2013 9:11am

I'm a 12 year old girl and I'm already seeing a counselor but I can never say anything right and she says that I'm not a big priority but that's because I can't help but lie each time. I just can't talk about it and I've looked at the symptoms and everything but they say I need help. I'm stuffed.

What's wrong with me?

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Chicky >> 11/04/2013 10:56pm

I feel a little stupid being here but my partner has started to notice that I'm acting different. I've tried to hide how I feel but I can only spend so long in the shower trying to think things through. My stepdad had a bout of depression around two years ago after I met my first boyfriend. His depression focused itself on me and eventually tool a toll on his relationship with my mother as for months on end he refused to speak to me or about me. After a while he told me I had two weeks to find my own place. Things got better for him and my family and I helped him to get through his depression. That year was one of the hardest of my life as he was like a real father to me as mine passed away suddenly when I was five. Lately though it's like it's starting again he doesn't want to know me and neither does my mother. I feel as though I'm putting up all these walls to protect myself but it's pushing everyone away. My partner has tried to talk to me saying I'm always angry and sad. I don't know how to tell him I feel so desperately alone even though I'm surrounded by people. I feel like I'm screaming and no one can hear me. I feel like the ones I love don't want me and I'm screwing up all the time. I know enough about depression to know I shouldn't feel this way but I don't want to make a fuss especially with how well my step dad is doing. What do I do?

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Jesh:) >> 27/04/2013 11:45pm

A good way to tell your partner without telling them is to show them this message you posted, as it explains how you feel about these things and also how ashamed you feel about them. It will show them that you are humble and needing help, not just attention seeking. You might then have ttheir support and it will be easier to get through this tough time with them. Take care.

TRUTH HURTS BT A LIES WORSE

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mizdah_t91 >> 21/04/2013 10:33am

MHY STORY STARTS WHEN I WAS YOUNG I USE TO GET PICKED ON AN BULLYED RIGHT UHB TIL INTERMIDIATE TIL I STARTD TO MAKE FRIENDS AN LIE TO TRY AN IMPRESS PEOPLE..ANYWAY I CARRIED ON THIS LIFE STYLE PRETTY MUJ RIGHT THREW MY TEENS IM 21 RIGHT NOW SO YEA IVE TOLD SOME MANY LIES I DONT NO WHAT THE TRUTH IS !! WISH I CUD TAKE BACK TIME AN FIX ALL THA LIES IVE TOLD ..COZ THA ANGER,SADNESS & LOSE I FEEL IS SO UNBEARABLE JUST WANA GO OUT AN PARTY LIKE A ROCK STAR??

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Arod >> 24/04/2013 11:27pm

Hey, that's cool you don't want to lie anymore especially if you were lying to be accepted. I think most people had some stage I know I have maybe not so much lying but acting how you think people want you to act to fit in. Take time to get to know yourself and what you like and value and to be honest it doesen't matter how many friends you have what's important is they love you for you.

parents, school, boys

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pixiestix >> 24/04/2013 3:08pm

I am a 17 year old girl in her final year at high school. everyone sees me as the happy and conifent person I pretend to be but this year is very hard. I feel constantly depressed but hide it from people. School is getting on top of me but I have no motivation even though I want to get into uni next year. I dont want my arents to know because they have enough to worry about and they might just think im attention seeking. Then there is also a boy- I love him competely and want to be with him and he feels the same. But because I am finding it so hard to concentrate on school I wont let him see me. We both find this very hard bc we want to be togther. He doesnt know that I might be suffering from depression and I am too scared to tell him because it isnt what an 18 year old guy really wants to deal with and I dont want to worry him. But I miss him and cant stand when we arent talking. I feel so dpendant and fragile and I just dont know what to do anymore :(

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Arod >> 24/04/2013 11:14pm

Hey,

I can definitely relate to this I started feeling this way when I was around about seventeen but for me there was no boy although that's kind of the point. You said you haven't opened up to this boy because it's not something he should have to deal with but if he feels as you do he will care about you and how you feel he is probably already worried about you if your being distant from him. From my own experience pushing those you care about away is the worst thing you can do you may feel like your protecting them but it won't do you any flavours in the long run and you and your well being is actually the most important thing here. I made a full recovery and part of that was opening up to the right people it doesen't make everything easier straight away but it is nice to know how much people actually do care about you. Take care and look after yourself.

Depressed teenage girls

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NicoleH221 >> 20/04/2013 8:15pm

To all the teenage girls who are having a rough time. Maybe we could talk on here? Im having a rough time at the moment and have to do CBT because of my depression. Feel free to talk if you want to :)

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pixiestix >> 24/04/2013 2:24pm

Hi, I am having a tough time and would really love to talk to another girl going through a rough patch as well. by the way I am 17 years old and in my final year at high school

well being in teenage girls

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ashleighsmith >> 03/04/2013 8:42pm

Hi my name is Ashleigh. When I was younger about 15-18 I went through a very rough time. It was mostly because I fell in love with my first bf who was mean to me and cheated on me a lot. Unfortunately I didnt have the courage to leave him because I was so in love and couldn't imagine my life without him. He turned my world upside down and I didnt have much help to get me through it. I often wanted to get help but I was to scared that they wouldn't take me seriously. Now I am 22 and I am in my final year of university. I am dedicating this year to looking at the emotional wellbeing of teenage girls and looking at different ways I can help them get the help and advice they need for any and every problem they have.

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Blackrose1567 >> 23/04/2013 9:11pm

I'm a 17 and is currently going through a pretty rough time, I posted a topic just before about my life at this moment. But I would love to hear what you would say :)

mizdah_t91 >> 21/04/2013 8:50am

hi thea im not a teenage girl but i was in love with a girl who was goen threw a real ruff patch in her life..dealing with many issues..anyway how we meet was a good friend whom i call my siis hookd us up ..whn i first seen her i was lost in her beauty so yeah we jus startd goen out things were good til tha 1st arguement ..we workd it out bt tha next wk i dumpd her coz i fort she had too many problems an she wudnt help her self and it was doen my head..cutt tha story short 8 mnths went by then i seen her again bt this was different coz apparently she said to people bad thing about me ..my intentions whn i seen her was to talk only bout that bt then yeah gt lost in her beauty agen an we hookd up again..only thing thou i lied about something while we wre hookn uhb & fort no 1 wud ever found out..til she dd bt she accepted my sorry an we gt on with things bt then dramiz frm her past kept eatting @ her i was tryin my best to handle as much as i cud bt it ended up consuming me..coz i startd tryna only deal with her probz nt my own thinkn love wud save us..turned out to be tha un doing of us coz i over reacted an sed some hurt full things to her an to top it off her family use to butt in to our realationship an make me feel bad ..its been 3 dayz since she dumped me an cant stop living in whaat iff, she jus defriended me on facebook, so im guessin it overs forevr..cant stop regreting wt i dd an wishing i cud take back time to fix things..reading some of tha stories made me realise that u have to have paitence WITH PEOPLE an that we are all different ..COZ RIGHT NOW I FEEL UPSET AN HURT BECOZ I NEVER LOOKD AFTER THA GIRL I LOVED PROPERLY ...

NicoleH221 >> 20/04/2013 8:01pm

I'm glad you're at University now, and hope you are focussing completely on yourself and not guys! I'm a teenage girl that has depression. Due to a lot of things, my ex being one of them!

its always my fault

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bobthebuilder >> 20/04/2013 8:23pm

anything tht goes rong always! gets blamed on me its not fair

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mizdah_t91 >> 21/04/2013 8:56am

I SO NO THAT FEELING WHEN I 1ST LEFT SCHOOL @ 15 AND STRATED MY BUILDING APPRENTISHIP I USE TO STUFF UP ALL THA TIME..BT YEAH I EVETUALLY GOT BETTER BT MY WORK MATES AN BOSSERS WUD TEASE AN TAUNT ME ABOUT ANYTHING GOEN WORK @ THA JOB..

escadachic >> 21/04/2013 11:09pm

people like to always blame someone.

For people to always blame you, that is very immature of them. They need to take ownership when things go wrong, instead of putting it on you.

I think, no, it's not your fault. Yes depression might make you feel that somethings are. But you are not to blame.

Feel encouraged. If we do make mistakes, they are just opportunites to learn and grow. They don't mean there is anything wrong with you. We are all human, we all make mistakes. Feel assured, you are human, no-one is perfect and you are loved and supported.

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