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kyle1234 >> 22/05/2010 3:16am

hey right now i have had no feellings of sleepyness and its 3 am last and last night i fell assleep at 7 am why am i having sleeping problams help me please

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Melissa14 >> 04/06/2010 10:18pm

i think your thinking to much or ur having a few problems at the moment.if u cant get to sleep get up and do somthing eg go for a run this alwys clears peoples heads and then try to go back to sleep.
hope this helps

waste

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yaaaay >> 22/05/2010 5:31pm

im sick of people telling me to be nicer to my parents. i tried that. waste of time.

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Melissa14 >> 04/06/2010 10:15pm

i kno how you feel.dont be nicer to your parents just dont be mean.
hope this helps

Help please

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paul10 >> 23/05/2010 3:20pm

Hi, i'm paul and i'm 17. I moved to New Plymouth from auckland a few years ago. since moving i have not been myself and have felt sad. I have friends here but no real close one. One of my "friends" treats me like crap and acts like he doesn't do it. He pressures me to do things with him in the weekend even though everytime i do he just stresses me out even more. If I talk to him he wouldn't change at all. trust me on this one, he is in no way understanding. My best friends still are in auckland. I'm not enjoying the things that I normally would and just have days where i feel helpless. i feel that once i leave school i want to go back to auckland. I just can't deal with life here and feel horrible here. i dont know what to do tbh

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Melissa14 >> 04/06/2010 10:14pm

a tru friend shouldnt pressure u into things.this guy sounds like he is not a tru friend and i think u should make sum new friends.
hope this helps

Failure

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KJ >> 31/05/2010 11:50pm

Hey,
At the moment i feel like i have failed.
I dropped out of school without level 1 NCEA FINALLY got a job and now im working day to day. Iv gotten real insecure. i always have to repeat myself because im so quiet, I find it hard to spark conversation because i feel intimidated with people my own age. I should be living it up like all teenagesbut intead im at home every weekend feeling sorry for myself. I want to change !
I want to get my Level 1 & 2, To be comfortable in my own skin, Fit and healthy and do something with my life.

Im Always sad and im lost

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Melissa14 >> 04/06/2010 10:10pm

hey
go back to school and try to get level 1 and 2 and try making sum new friends.Talk to sum people who u dont kno nd talk only about wat u feel comfortable with.your not a failure u just made a wrong decision.do wat i do when i have heaps of problems make a list of them all then focus on one at a time and try to think of a way to resolve it.
hope this helps

i didnt realise how many people felt the same

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DDlovesyou >> 02/06/2010 9:55pm

i didnt think that anyone else felt similar to me... i too feel like no one wants to know me and i also feel all alone... im so sick of feeling like this but i dont know how to interact with people... can anyone give any advice?

thanks
DD

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Melissa14 >> 04/06/2010 10:06pm

start up a tagged/myspace/twitter/facebook and add some randoms and just get to kno them if you dont kno wat to talk about try things like likes and dislikes , family, pets , interests , wat kind of music they like , fave colour etc.
hope this helps

i dont know what wrong

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nicoleey >> 03/06/2010 8:51pm

im a 14 year old girl. alot has gone on in the past 15 months with me. i started a boarding school last year and was assulted in a class room. the teacher watched the whole thing and didnt even care. the police were informed and i left the school. in term 2 that year i have very bad tummy pain. i couldn't go to school so i left my local school and did correspondence for terms 3 and 4. in September 2009 i went to hospital and had a operation to see if i had endometriosis - not sure on correct spelling. they couldn't find any. i had so much pain and was admitted to hospital 5 times by an ambulance. they found i had a gastric ulcer so now i cant have any NSAID pill such as nurefon. i am at a new boarding school this year. im finding it very hard to cope. i get home sick and cry a lot. when i get a peroid i get very intense pain and a week before hand i get moody and have lots of symptoms. at the moment i am stood down from the hostel because i hit a girl who was ment to be my best mate. i knew i shouldn't have done that. my doctor is referring me to counseling but i hate talking face to face about my issues. with all of this my mum thinks im depressed but i think its PMS or PMT.

if you have any ideas please help. i need someone to talk to because i want to become a better person to be around.

Free falling anxiety

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bobby >> 01/06/2010 7:15pm

hello, 21 year old female, currently experiencing free falling anxiety. have a history of depression, 2 bouts lasting 9 ish months in the last 5 years.been on fluox and the citalopram. heart palpatations, temperatures, shaking, needing to pee. its awful, and the only reccomendation they have is to go back on the meds, but i sleep all day on them. am a bit confused, just wanted to know if theres anyone else out there who is having these symptoms and maybe a way i can look at coping with them. xo

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xx.otic___ >> 02/06/2010 11:43pm

hey girl,
i'm 20 years old & also dealing with the same stuff & i swear i'm loosing my mind =|
i've got some anxiety / paranoia / hypocondria / bi polar n idk what to do !
like you, i've also been on fluox as well as Paroxetine & Epilim.
I don't take my anti depressants frequently as i have a terrible addiction to diet pills & other persricption meds so when i take these as well as the anti-depressants i, like you end up with horrible heart palpatations, dizziness & chest pains.
Wish you the best xx

what the hell am i doing?

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inconsessuss >> 01/06/2010 9:39pm

last year, i broke up with my ex for another guy. this year, after 11 months, i did the same thing, so yea, another guy.
sometimes. i put up a happy face at school, and when im out, but im really dying inside.
did not help that my NOW ex sent me a text saying:
"it is wrong, what you did. if you told me the truth, it could have been avoided. what do you really want? you cannot just use guys for your own happiness."
i know what i did was wrong, and i regret that, but iduno.
he;s right. coz, i dont know what i want in life.
fml, right now.

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Melissa14 >> 02/06/2010 10:01pm

thats just like me i dont kno wat i want. i think i want it so i get it then i dont

School.Parents.Life.

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dark_princess95 >> 25/05/2010 8:06pm

Hi everyone, this year i am a year 11 that has started at a new school. I love it here but i'm missing all of my friends from my old school. i've tried to keep in contact with them all but none of them have tried very hard to keep in touch and all seem to be pushing me away. also.. this year is my first NCEA year and my parents are presuring me to get get merits and excelences, if i just achieve something they give me this huge lecture about not trying hard enough. they are too strict with me and i don't know what to do about it anymore! HELP!!

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DH >> 02/06/2010 8:38pm

Hey i agree with the above, NCEA Level one is a lot easier than level 2. Im year 12 this year and i am doing good, but it is only because i did a lot of work in year 11 to get where i am. I mean to be quite honest, i am a average student yet i got Level one with merit. I have a close friend who absolutely never turned up to school in year 10, and teaches and peers basicly steriotyped her and thought shell just fail like those many other pull outs. Yet get this, she was 1 of 30 that got a merit endorsement in Level 1. This may not slightly relate so much to your story but it shows, just as long as you get the work done you have a much better chance of achieving with endorsements.

starbec >> 29/05/2010 4:58pm

Hey, I'm year 12 and really year 11 isn't as bad as you think it is at the time. It's difficult because you're not used to it. If you're happy with Achieved then that's okay, but there's nothing wrong with pushing yourself to do higher. Sometimes it can be an excellent distraction. It can be so hard to concentrate on work, I totally get that. But you shouldn't feel pressured to do well, but remember it is within your capabilities. With friends, it can be hard settling in, AND keeping in touch. But all I can suggest it take it in your stride and relationships build over time. Also my suggestion for year 11 is to try and really figure out what subjects you are good at because in year 12 they get a billion times harder so it's best to choose subjects you are competent in. Don't choose something because your friends doing it or your parents want you to. Choose it because you're interested in it, because the passion for the subject is sometimes the only thing that keeps you going when it all gets harder in the next years.

smiley63 >> 26/05/2010 4:45pm

hey there, i know a little bit about how you feel, i myself am generally a high achiever and it it hard having that constant pressure to do well. Achieves are not the end of the world, even if you fail its not the end of the world though at the time you may feel like it is a huge deal. NCEA can be scary but it's not too bad. As the cliche goes you just need to do the best that you can and study hard don't stress yourself out too much. i think its all about having balance. i know its hard when you have really strict parents but even though they are harsh on you its because they really care about you and believe you have the potential to do really well. Just do your best and im sure youll be fine, they say that when you're more relaxed in a test you generally do better anyway. As for moving to a new school, thats tough and it can be hard when you feel like you're loosing contact with your old friends. i myself have had many great friends which over the years i have lost contact with, sadly it does happen but the really good ones and the ones worth keeping you will stay in touch with.
hope something i said has been slightly helpful
and i wish you all the best

I'm not sure?

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lalalaland >> 01/06/2010 8:59pm

I just feel really terrible sometimes. I've been on and off bulemic but i feel like i can't even do wrong right. Not really even sure why i feel like i do sometimes, but my mum's bipolar and apparently its hereditary. but sometimes i just cry to the point where i cant breathe then two minutes later i'll be in hysterical laughter. don't really get it.

Reaching out.

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DecemberGirl >> 31/05/2010 10:42pm

Hey all

I have been suffering from symptoms of depression from some time, and recently I have decided to reach out and get myself some help. I don't really have "real" friends that I can talk to, having been told by "friends" that I'm being "selfish" by staying in all the time, when really I just don't have the energy to go out and socialize with people at all. I don't really know what is the best way to get help, or how to approach the subject with my doctor. Any suggestions??

To the point of I really don't know

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snap >> 23/05/2010 2:11am

I have been receiving counseling for 6 years and have been through 6 different people. I feel all talked out and nothing is helping.
I have been told for the last 4 years to go on anti-depressant but have been to scared and cautious of them. I have given in and started taking them because no matter how hard i try nothing works. It has been over 2 weeks since i have started them and i feel weird. i am not as down any more but anxiety is driving me nuts (if that makes sense).

I am over crying of frustration and I am becoming scared of myself and losing friends.

Has anyone been through the same or can someone help??

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mia k >> 31/05/2010 5:50pm

my sister has manic depression (not the same as depression - i know) and had VERY similar symptoms. she went on meds and became very paranoid and felt when someone left a room they would never come back. What she did was went to her GP and just told them it wasnt working. she tried a diffrent kind of meds (made her too drowsy) befor finding what she needed on the third attempt. She is now soooo much better. i guess what im trying to say in this little story is that different medication works for different people - if you have a problem with yours that doesnt get better, go back and tell them its not working. eventually youll find something that works just fine for you :) goodluck
<3 mia

LostInTranslation >> 25/05/2010 1:46am

Hi Snap,
I can totally understand where you are coming from on this one. I've been in and out of counselling with so many different people, and only a couple have actually helped. I was finally told to go on anti depressants last year I think, and I just kept putting it off. Finally I gave in and tried them.

I had a reaction to the first ones they put me on, but was fine on the second. I was on them for a few months, but then I starting forgetting to take them or hiding them because it was embarrassing. In the end I stopped taking them, and said it was because I didn't need them. Now I wish I'd kept on them even though they made me feel weird, because I need the effect in my system, and there's nothing there! I don't know what to do.... I don't feel I can physically ask for help, so I'm on here instead :) Hope this helps in some way for you

Text Bullying

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Kellie020 >> 29/05/2010 1:38pm

At the moment, some boys that catch my bus are text bullying me. They have been doing his for nearly 2 years now and I'm getting sick of it. I don't know what to do! I talked to my teachers but they said just ignore them. I can't! Help me!!!

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lost89 >> 31/05/2010 4:48pm

Hey.

Sorry to hear this is happening to you.. it's a sucky situation to be in. I would honestly suggest to keep all text msg from them from now on... do not text back.. after i think it's three. go see who ever your with be that telecom or vodafone and tell them what is happening, show them the text. if they are threatening you though go straight to police. i am very surprised to hear your teachers have said to ignore it... they should know better esp now that the police, vodafone and telecome are cracking down on text bulling. i would also suggest by-passing your teachers and going straight to your principal.. tell them they either do something about it or you go to police.. you do not have to put up with this.

Your provider (telecom or vodafone) will then send them a text or ring them and tell them that they have just received a complaint about bullying and if they do not stop they will have their phones disabled which will make them unable to use their phones.
if you get anymore go back because then more action should be taken.

hope this helps..

stand your ground... you don't deserve this

Is this Depression?

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clarina >> 30/05/2010 7:12am

- Feelling sad (I'll suddenly feel sad - happens anywhere)
- Crying for some little thing that happened (eg. my family says one thing at me - it's not quite scolding me) or for no reason at all
- Getting worked up about little things
- Feelling like the sales people at a shop are looking at me like I'm gonna steal something,
- Seeing people looking and talking/laughing in my direction and feeling it's about me
- Sometimes I feel like kicking/punching the wall
- Feeling worthless, stupid, dumb, useless, I'm not gonna succeed in anything, sometimes feeling like everything I do is a failure
- Asking God why he sent me here cause I have no use to the world and the world's not gonna get any worse without me
- Wishing I was never here on this Earth
- Even though I don't really have that much to do (I'm in my Gap Year), sometimes I feel like everything is bombarding me at the same time and I can't handle it anymore
- Sometimes wishing I could live alone with my dolls (I feel they're the only ones who understand me)

I never had many friends in kindergarten, primary school, and secondary school. I met my best friends in year 7 but we only became really close (going to movies, going to each other's house) in year 11. I started getting bullied in P2, and it stopped in year 11 (it was better in P5 + P6, but then it started again in year 7).
I was mostly alone during break times in primary school and years 7-9.

My mom, aunt, and grandma are always telling me that I'm wasting my time making cards or presents for them for their birthdays or for Mother's Day or making these for other people. When I want to do/make something (eg. bake a cake/cookies) my mom says something like "You're wasting your time. Don't do it, it won't work".

Do these things have anything to do with what I feel above?

I feel like the world's closing in on me

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DaveTurner >> 25/05/2010 10:19pm

I just feel like talking to someone about this problem that has been bugging me for days, I did someone to one of my friend that I'm not proud of and now all my mates are having second thoughts about me, and they have been telling everyone in the school about what happened, I hav'nt been so depressed in my life, what should I do?

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chopp >> 29/05/2010 11:55pm

sounds like a situation i was in a while back, if it's the same i'd be happy to chat with you

call me a cab >> 26/05/2010 5:26pm

its sad that your friends arent supporting you, maybe you could talk to your parents or maybe a school cousielor if you have one

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