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An0nGirl >> 02/10/2012 1:34pm

I don't know if I am depressed or anything because I'm too scared to go and talk to a doctor but for awhile no I have been feeling down on myself and I sometimes wish someone would notice so I don't carry this feeling alone like it feels like a burden. I'm a 17 year old girl and when anyone sees me they won't think anythings wrong because I'm always smiling but I feel the total opposite. I feel alone and don't know how to open up to anyone because I feel like if I do they'll judge me or treat me differently because of what I tell them. Lately I get angry for the smallest things or cry in my room for no reason. I hate this feeling and don't know what to do about it.

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lisar >> 30/01/2013 4:21pm

I feel the exact same way, i feel sad all the time and i have no energy and just feel like sleeping all day but it takes ages to fall asleep and i wake up in the midle of the night. I dont want to tell anyone coz im shy and i find it really hard to talk about my feelings and im scared of what they will think. I end up just painting on a happy face but i kind of want someone to notice and help me.

thatguywhohelps >> 12/10/2012 12:39pm

hey crowbones dont sweat it. your friends wont laugh at you or anything man! No one in this world is worthless. i go by the saying evrything in this world happens for a reason. Ure better than that. #RISEABOVE

CrowBones >> 06/10/2012 7:09pm

hey there, im 16 and feeling the same way. Im struggling to tell my friends because im scared of what theyd think. And i had been having problems with one of them because they were jealous of me. I dont know what of because i feel so worthless.

Im praying for you and i hope you find a good way out of it.
All the best.

chachabun >> 03/10/2012 12:34am

I've recently found myself feel the exact same way. I'm a 19 uni student; super busy with assignments and with my part time job. I hardly see any of my friends and I feel so lonely, but when I do see them I can't face my friends and tell them what's wrong; I just smile and carry on; pretend nothing is wrong. I feel like I'm just making a too big of deal about it. But inside I feel empty, blank and alone and often wonder why I'm even alive. Which scares me the most; I keep thinking about life and death and I'm really scared. I just cry randomly and I just feel sick of myself and everything. I don't know what to do about it either. When I read your post, I felt like I was reading myself, and I thought I'd let you know you're not alone. That you aren't crazy or anything like that. Normally I would say that you should talk to someone, but since I can't do that myself, then that would make me a hypocrite wouldn't it? I hope you can feel better soon and I hope things will improve for you. ^^

My boyfirnd broke up and didnt give any reason

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ashna >> 02/01/2013 10:11am

My boyfriend broke up with me after 2 years and just said its not working now.I tried to convince him a lot ..But all in vain .He said I need some medical help an I m a pyscho .. I m not .. I mknow I m fit .I dnt know how to convince him and bring him back .Its effecting my proffessional life .I dnt want to spoil my proffessional life .pls suggest me what should I do

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feelinglow >> 30/01/2013 12:25am

If he doesn't want you, find a man that does! Be an Independent and Self motivated person! There's no point in asking "what do I do? Why doesn't he love me?" If he doesn't love you for who you are then give him the flick! You are your own person, who may have a few problems but don't let any man tell you who you are, because in the process you'll become that, and lose yourself within it. Head up, become who you want to be, and don't let any man control your happiness, because there will be someone out there who truly just makes you happy.

MadameBovary >> 28/01/2013 3:54am

I hope you have moved on a bit since you posted here. Breakups are really hard, especially on girls because we are often ready for committment sooner than boys are. My first relationship lasted for two years and I took it really hard when it ended - it was actually less than two years because he went with someone else but came back to me. In the end it ws a very unhealthy relationship for me and my next boyfriend was much nicer to me. You don't deserve to be with someone who calls you a psycho, you deserve someone much better than that. I hope you are feeling happier now if you do come back to read this post.

My career choice may be the biggest mistake of my life

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sttown >> 25/01/2013 9:49pm

I just feel so hopeless and worthless and a failure because i got demoted at work because i wasnt good enough. I have had struggles with depression and anixety for the majority of my teenage years and now im 21 and i thought i had put it behind me because i felt like had a purpose in life but now i just feel like i a failure an embarassmentt to my friends and my family. I thought i had a goal and a vision in life but now it just feels like that has been destroyed and i dont know what to do.I just feel empty with no strive for what i used to love to do and the fire feels like it has been put out.

From Stephen

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wanting.to.make.a.difference >> 27/01/2013 5:37pm

Hi Stephen, I can understand how you are feeling. I struggled with Anxiety and bullying most of my school life. I have had many career choices but never acted on them. I always found reasons why i wasnt capable of achieving the goal.Finally i have made a decision, stuck with it and am now starting wintec next month.Im really looking forward to it.I quite often feel like i am a failure, A disappointment to my family as my older sister has achieved so much. I hope you can find something to reignite your fire. If you don't mind me asking.. what was the role you go demoted from? I recently quit my job as a kitchen hand because it was a very unhealthy work environment where I felt worthless and no good. I find music really helps lift me out of a unhappy mood. If you've read my post you will see I too am going through some struggles, music has really helped me .
I hope I have helped a little :)

why does nothing work

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superhappy777 >> 04/01/2013 9:14pm

life realy sucks lately every time things finally seem to be going good for me something goes wrong or i stuff up i feel like theres nothing i can do right. People expect so much out of me and i cant live up to expectations then im a disapointment. People tell me i should find something i enjoy then when i do im not allowed to talk about it at all or be excited it sucks. When i try doing nice things people close to me complain that i don't know what im doing but thing is i do know. Then theres work my bosses hate me and promoted a guy who barely does any work over me who puts his heart into his work i get back stabbed by them, lied to and can't move up or do any training at all im expected to do my managers and 2ics work and clean up their messes then get blamed for everything. I feel the only place im truly free and happy is doing martial arts but my wife is totally against it and so is my family. I have 2 friends ones usually very busy and i understand but the other is always willing to hangout but once again wife does not like him and gets jealous if i talk to him to much or spend time with him IT FEELS LIKE I CAN'T WIN AT ANYTHING WHATS THE POINT IN TRYING!!!!!!

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TerriblyBetrayed >> 21/01/2013 11:17pm

Why is your wife against you doing things you enjoy or make you happy? Does she know how you feel?

One of the things that I think caused problems in my marriage and has now meant that I am going through a real tough separation is communication. My ex never told me how he felt until it was too late. Instead of talking he went to someone else. I'm not saying that it will happen to you but talking is important. Tell your wife why martial arts is important to you.

Lost and Alone

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tomm >> 13/01/2013 12:04am

Im new to this ive struggeld with these depressed feelings for going on 4 years now and its taken until tonight for me to want to fix myself. my family is well none existant and i dont have my close friends anymore i have no one a all to talk to about things, and whenever things start to look ok everything just falls apart

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wanting.to.make.a.difference >> 21/01/2013 7:42pm

Sounds like you are heading in the right direction by starting here.what do you mean about your family being non existant? I know how you feel about having no one to talk to , That has happened to me many times. I hope you can find someone to talk to, I know it helps me at times. I wish my best friend knew how much I am struggling but she seems to be to caught up in her own world so I found this site. Goodluck .

Replacement

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feelinglow >> 20/01/2013 4:16pm

When I was six, my dad left to aussie, but he told me he would be back. I remember it like it was yesterday. Him and my mum were going to move us to aussie and start a new life but things didn't work it between them and I never got there. He was my everything, the reason for most of my happiness. But when I was about 7/8, my mum came in the room late at night, she was crying. She explained to me that my dad had a heart attack and passed away, I didn't shed a tear that night. I'm 17 now, and I have had quite an up and down life. My mum was in a bad relationship, we never had money, I've been from family member to family member and back. But when I think back to my dad, I think of how much I miss and need him. About a three years ago, I fell in love as any teenager would. He's changed me so much, especially from what I used to be. Trouble, drugs, missing school ect. He changed everything, he makes me so happy. But I think I did something seriously wrong... I become like this little kid around him. I cry when I don't get my way, when I want something I depend on him for it. I depend on him for everything. I know that he doesn't exactly mind. But I feel that I sort of tried to turn him into someone he isn't, someone who is long gone. My dad... I know its bad but I can't help it. I can't stand a day without him, I cry when he leaves, I do everything possible just to be at least a metre from him. I just don't want him to go, and never come back. Like my dad did... I haven't been to aussie yet to see my daddy, my mum promised year after year but no go. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend but I don't want to be selfish ;( But I don't want to lose him more than anything ;( I can't let him go like I let my dad go, I don't think I could handle it. I need some help, please /:

my problem

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broughtintoit >> 18/01/2013 11:22am

turned 15 4 days ago and think i have been depressed for a few months now. I have a bf of 1 year 2 months and about 6 months ago we were going through a rough patch and he was suffering depression himself which he shared with me. During that time i changed myself and spent all my time trying to make him better seperating myself from my friends. in the end we got through it and were all happy and sorted again. no sooner after that my dad, being divorced and by himself lost his house and job and was about to be served bankruptcy. He then started getting depression to. this was hard for me as i dont get along well with him as he has anger issues as well and whenever i go i get yelled at and can never sit and relax. This made me stress out as i didnt want him gone yet i dreaded going to see him. Every time i went to see him i came back crying so hard and needing to talk to my bf on the phone before i could calm down. I started having panick attacks and i am the type of person who can never stop worrying. After time things got better and started to get back to usual but i didn't. I never have any energy to go join my friends in activities andi ahave lost interest in doing anything with my family or any extra curricular activities i used to do. I have only told my bf and he has assured me he will help me through it and will always be there when i need it, but i just dont know how to get better and i feel so guilty always having problems and not always being happy when i go spend time with him.

Changed dad

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ddenden >> 14/01/2013 4:22pm

Me and my dad use to have a really close relationship i loved him to bits he was the best dad i could ask for. However although he had lots of love for me he never really helped out with anything. my mum always did everything in the house. my family started to notice him being online a lot and till 4-5 am most days. his mood started changing and him and my mum would always argue. Long story cut short i found out he had been talking to another lady and telling her how much he loves her and i just couldn't believe my dad would do that to someones hes been married to for 33 years. i saw all the messages and i had to tell my mum about it. as weeks went by everyone and my siblings was over it the tried to put it aside and so did my mum, however, i couldn't. it hurt me so much to know he did that to my mum. i know my mums always hurting but she doesnt say anything about it and it kills me knowing shes wasted her whole life on a man like him. my dad since has became abusive sometimes and very short tempered and yells at everyone over anything and will just be swearing over little things. in 2 weeks he is going back to his home town for 2 months which my mum fought with him about refusing to let him go because she loves him so much although he will be coming back. im glad he is going though because there will finally be some peace in the house but everyday it kills me knowing what my dad always put my mum through and im trying to be strong for my mum but when he is gone shes going to be so lonely and im going to be in uni this year so i wont be around as much aswel. i really wish i had a father figure to rely on and it eats me up everyday knowing i dont and it kills me more knowing my mum has to spend the rest of her life with someone thats never going to change :(

Family too much

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Adviceplease >> 13/01/2013 8:31pm

I feel like my family is too much for me, we are a very close family but i think it stresses me out more than anything. I dont want to be visited all the time or called all the time. But i dont want to say anything to upset anyone. I need my own space. I also feel like its very gossipy and i know everyones business before they tell me personally because someone has already told me. I am known as the honest one in my family and people get upset when i tell the truth, so i dont know what to do without upsetting everyone. I also feel like sometimes its up to me to visit people or they hassle me why i dont see them....how about you come and see me! Anyone feel like this or similar? It makes me want to move to have distance.

Feeling alone, stressed, want change...where to start...?!

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Adviceplease >> 13/01/2013 8:24pm

I have been feeling stressed alot lately, with my partner, my family, i dont have many friends let alone close friends...the only thing that makes me happy is my son. I need change but i dont know where to start, thinking I need to move away from living close to my family. Focus on me and my boy and my partner, but he has no job and makes no efforts to get a job, as well as a whole lot of other issues i have with our relationship that stresses me out, i dont think i can leave i would miss him too much and feel even worse being just me and my son. Not really sure what to do..im also not very good at making new friends unless people approach me first and we really click straight away, im not a drinker or smoker or loud person so its hard for me to find easy going people like myself. Not really sure what i want from this post maye jus to vent my feelings.

Help

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Skipper1234 >> 06/01/2013 1:00pm

Im really at a lost in my life...

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Nothing >> 12/01/2013 1:24am

why is that?

Cant find a job!!

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khan416 >> 10/01/2013 6:23pm

Cant find a job,, every time i apply for a job my application gets rejected

annoyed a lot

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jazz2212 >> 07/01/2013 9:39pm

Lately I have been spending most of my day annoyed and grumpy. Even when I am somewhere cool. Most of the time I find that it is better that I stay away from people because I have nothing nice to say.
I'm sick of my partner. He has been on holiday for 3 weeks now and has spent them drinking. Now I'm stressed out about finances because he is making a mess of them and by this time next week we are going to be suffering because of he thinks he is still young with no responsibilities and wants to party the whole time. We have two small girls together and he has a daughter from a previous relationship who is staying with us for the holidays. He was also supposed to take her clothes shopping but spent the money because he'll just take it out of the next pay and things that were supposed to be paid for this week will have to wait... and so it goes on.
I can't take it. I'm sick of being this grumpy nag but he is ruining our lives and will not listen because like I just said, I'm a grumpy nag and I'm just saying it because I'm a grumpy nag. When I am experiencing any other emotion besides complacency, his response is that I should get over it, or snap out of it, or go and talk to someone who actually cares. Obviously he has some good qualities also or I would not be with him, but at the moment I can't stand him or anyone else.

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jazz2212 >> 08/01/2013 1:18pm

I tried to kick my partner out this morning. I am still totally frustrated and feel like crying. I don't want to be around anyone right now so they have gone for a ride but the little baby is still here because she is breastfed.
I told him he could stay until his daughter leaves on Sunday but I just want everyone to go away so I can be by myself. I feel like I am going insane and that I am so close to tears that anything could set me off. This morning it was bits of hair all over the baby's washing because my partner cuts hair and he didn't clean it properly when he was finished. I lost the plot and am too stubborn and upset to apologise. So is he.
If he does leave which he never does I wouldn't know what to do either. I am stuck in a stupid rut where I just feel helpless, angry and like there should be something more to life then what I have. If it wasn't for my babies I would have drowned my sorrows. I'm hanging in there though because of them. Just.

jazz2212 >> 08/01/2013 1:18pm

I tried to kick my partner out this morning. I am still totally frustrated and feel like crying. I don't want to be around anyone right now so they have gone for a ride but the little baby is still here because she is breastfed.
I told him he could stay until his daughter leaves on Sunday but I just want everyone to go away so I can be by myself. I feel like I am going insane and that I am so close to tears that anything could set me off. This morning it was bits of hair all over the baby's washing because my partner cuts hair and he didn't clean it properly when he was finished. I lost the plot and am too stubborn and upset to apologise. So is he.
If he does leave which he never does I wouldn't know what to do either. I am stuck in a stupid rut where I just feel helpless, angry and like there should be something more to life then what I have. If it wasn't for my babies I would have drowned my sorrows.. I'm hanging in there though because of them. Just.

depressed, feeling alone and cant cope

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jeska123 >> 31/12/2012 10:34pm

I am a mum of 3 and tonight is new years, I was really excited to have the kids in bed and spend some time with my partner cause we are so busy we hardly get the chance to sit and relax. When he got home we was going out to drink with the boys for new years. Now with all 3 kids asleep Im feeling really alone. I get sad thoughts about loneliness and sadness and its hard to deal with. I have post natal depression and am on anti depressants for it. I never talk to anyone else and its hard to find friends. Im so alone and empty. I get overwhemled with things I have to do and I am obsessed with cleanliness which is difficult with preschool aged children. Im struggling and just holding on to everything, but i dont know what to do anymore.

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acare >> 08/01/2013 3:18am

I lost my job, boyfriend and feel alone. My boyfriend always put me down and said i need help. however i think that he needs help for the things that he does.

acare >> 08/01/2013 3:18am

I lost my job, boyfriend and feel alone. My boyfriend always put me down and said i need help. however i think that he needs help for the things that he does.

zax11 >> 31/12/2012 11:20pm

i would love to give you an answer, this is my first time on this site and i feel like you have written my story - with a few changes, but you know.
I know it doesnt help but your not the only one that feels this way and if you find a way i would love to hear it =)

annoyed a lot

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jazz2212 >> 07/01/2013 9:39pm

Lately I have been spending most of my day annoyed and grumpy. Even when I am somewhere cool. Most of the time I find that it is better that I stay away from people because I have nothing nice to say.
I'm sick of my partner. He has been on holiday for 3 weeks now and has spent them drinking. Now I'm stressed out about finances because he is making a mess of them and by this time next week we are going to be suffering because of he thinks he is still young with no responsibilities and wants to party the whole time. We have two small girls together and he has a daughter from a previous relationship who is staying with us for the holidays. He was also supposed to take her clothes shopping but spent the money because he'll just take it out of the next pay and things that were supposed to be paid for this week will have to wait... and so it goes on.
I can't take it. I'm sick of being this grumpy nag but he is ruining our lives and will not listen because like I just said, I'm a grumpy nag and I'm just saying it because I'm a grumpy nag. When I am experiencing any other emotion besides complacency, his response is that I should get over it, or snap out of it, or go and talk to someone who actually cares. Obviously he has some good qualities also or I would not be with him, but at the moment I can't stand him or anyone else.

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