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Those feelings you can't get rid of.

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sophstarre >> 06/08/2010 10:48pm

The feeling of rejection and like the whole world is against you, that pit feeling in your stomach that makes you sick, the headache you get from crying so much, the realisation that this isn't a nightmare but instead reality.. :(

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Mama#1 >> 07/09/2010 3:42pm

i fully am so the same . with sopnstarre up top im cryinq myself to sleep every nite . its like nothing i ever do is qood enough 4 anyone

catherine78 >> 09/08/2010 6:43pm

I totally relate to the feelings you are describing- it sounds to me like anxiety. I have suffered from anxiety for about 4 years and have only recently gone to get help. My advice to you is to get counselling as early on as possible because the feelings you are having WILL escalate and get worse the longer you leave it... I thought the feelings would pass, i.e. it was all a matter of age but they have gotten so bad that I am CONSTANTLY feeling anxious about pretty much anything and I have trouble walking down the street without getting scared.

Missing feeling like empty

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EmoChick101 >> 04/09/2010 6:46pm

do u ever feel like something is missing in your life like u have a huge hole in you??

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Berlin >> 07/09/2010 1:07pm

I always feel empty, this is usually brought on by people overdoing it in an attempt to help me. False hope is the worst thing you can do to somebody.

i.am.me >> 06/09/2010 11:10pm

almost every single day of my life.

Jay_JWLH >> 06/09/2010 3:35pm

You'll have to narrow that down a bit. Do you feel that way in an emotional sense, like you don't have people to talk to, relate to, or further yet someone special in your life? Maybe it is a lack of purpose, like you have too much free time on your hands, you don't know where you are heading in your life, or you have no long term goals to look forward to achieving. There could be more, but I'm just trying to help you elaborate.

Chronic pain syndrome since i was just a kid

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Berlin >> 07/09/2010 1:04pm

Hello.
I have been dealing with chronic pain syndrome for coming on eight years now. I came here because this pain brought with it severe severe depression, anxiety, and a whole lot of misery. And i cant get rid of it. Ive tried every medication under the sun but i seem to find there are little or no therapies that have good reasoning or help for me. Everyone tells me the same thing. Be it i am in a hospital bed on IV pain relief or sitting in my bed unable to get up today. The same. Thing. When they come in all smiley faced and how can you actually relate to that. The things they say to do, they havent done themselves, and when they critisize you, it is not you they have in mind but getting you to stay in their two cent word psychologist care. I guess you could say i am angry, i guess you could say i just want this constant barrage of false hope to end as it is driving me closer and closer to insanity, but honestly, it wont. Even this site wont help me. I will post this message and what will they say.. something about keeping on going, or some life metaphor, but they have never seen me. I think there should be more groups around rather than websites like that.. I could really use a group like that but in my town.. there is nothing.. I guess i dont post this in hopes you will solve all my woes, but i guess to just tell how fed up i feel right now.

My boyfriend has depression, how can i make him feel better about himself?

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zee1234 >> 07/09/2010 11:34am

Hi, my boyfriend has depression, and although he is amazing, he has really low self confidence. I have a lot of guy friends and he gets really jealous when i hang out with them at school and we end up fighting a lot about it. any suggeestions on how i can show him that they are just friends and make him feel better about himself? Because i'm starting to feel guilty for hanging out with them!

nobody knows how i feel

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elena >> 05/09/2010 12:16pm

i went through a really traumatic stage around six years ago. this year i have told three friends and they helped for a while but then it just became awkward and we didnt talk for a while. then one of them got me to talk to a counsellor and she said that i might be depressed. i want to have a normal life but anything that makes me happy gets ruined because the trauma comes back in flashback type stuff. i went to the counsellor for once a week for five weeks then stopped cause it got too much. now the counsellor rebooked without asking me and im really scared to go back and everyone tells me it will get better over time. but its so hard to think that it will ever be okay. the worst thing is NO ONE UNDERSTANDS HOW I FEEL so i cant talk it through and be happy after. is there anything else i can do?

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IcarusForde >> 06/09/2010 11:49pm

Hey Elena :)

I feel for ya, seriously... It's hard, dealing with stuff like this. I can't say I've ever been depressed, or had flashbacks, or anything like that - in a sense, I'm just an ordinary guy, but if I can tell you something, one thing, it's that someone does know how you feel.

Flashbacks aren't nice... But they can be beaten. It may not be the easiest thing to beat, but once you're on the road, it keeps moving. I've had friends deal with flashbacks before, and with time, and help, they're working through things, getting better now. :)

On your counselor... Yeah, it can be scary. It's always hard opening up to someone whom you don't really know, but the release is great, just having someone to talk to. I'd say go back again, but make sure you actually talk to her - counselors know what they're doing. :)

Anything else that you can do... Learn that you, yourself, are awesome. Because seriously, you are. :)

Jay_JWLH >> 06/09/2010 3:48pm

Yes, you should tell your counselor that the issues you are trying to deal with are becoming a bit too much to handle for you right now, and you just want some time off from talking about it. The point of a counselor session should be because either it is for your own good, or because you want to go there. You shouldn't have to be afraid of it. You can always come back to counselling sessions later on.

Well if it is just that particular counselor that is making recovery difficult for you, you can always look at talking to somebody else instead. Maybe somebody else can help you better. Whatever works for you.

confusedkiwi >> 06/09/2010 3:16pm

hI I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL IM GOING THRU THE SAME THING NOW SERIOUSLY IM SUPPOSE TO BE GOING TO MY COUNCELLOR IN A HOUR AND IM TOO SCARED TO GO BACK I DONT KNOW ITS ITS THAT I FEEL COMPLETLY COMFORTABLE SAYING WHAT I HAVE TO SAY I ALSO WENT THRU A VERY TRAUMATIC EXPIERANCE AND AM STILL TRYING TO DEAL WITH IT I HAVE HAD A VERY TOUGH YEAR AND FEEL LIKE I AM GETTING NOWHERE RIGHT NOW BUT PLEASE YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE XOXO

I dont want this anymore

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Confused10 >> 01/09/2010 7:21pm

I sorry to say this people, but i just cant live like this anymore. Everyone else seems so happy with there life, mine just sucks. know one cares about me, I dont have anyone in my life to care about. They are living there life and enjoying it, mine just sucks. Im just going no where and im a drain on everyone else. I really dont know what to do?

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kronos368 >> 06/09/2010 11:31pm

Hey lost89 and confused10,
I also have been going through a really hard time lately. My parents split a couple years back and i'm still feeling the repercussions. My friends seem to have abandoned me, along with my mum (i live with my dad) and sister. But my dad seems to have also turned his back on me. My advice: find some music you REALLY love (for me it's "Sonata Arctica") and play some of it alongside your other favourite music. Occupy yourself with music. I've recently joined a band and i've been doing pretty well.
Find your musical talent, it'll allow you to express yourself. I write songs to express myself.

lost89 >> 05/09/2010 11:32pm

Hey Confused10.
I understand how you feel. Most of my friends seem to have forgotten about me.. which realy sucks given depression is at it's worse for me at the moment. For me the only way i get through it is by living my life by the minute... not by the day... or month or year.. but by the mintue.. i focus on the little things to get me throug the day.. such as just getting out of bed.. getting in the shower.. or getting up to feed my cat breakfast. as silly as it sounds these three things are my daily goals.. At the end of the day i allow myself to eat something nice, wheather that be chocolate or some other sweet (but only if i did all three things). By doing this It gives me something to look forward to (i love choc) lol. it sounds silly i know but it seems to be working forme. it takes a lot of self control..

Other options than drugs?

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Robertyboberty2 >> 03/09/2010 9:50pm

Hey all, ive had depression since i was 15, currently 18 now, been off and on all sorts of medication and visits to therapists, psychologists etc, nothing seems to work, on the meds all i seemed to be doing was get worse, also with having insomnia so im sleeping every 3 or 4 days, eating little, constantly fatigued, so was just wondering on peoples suggestions on ways of coping with the lack of sleep and depression without having to be drugged up to my teath with medication,
cheers

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catherine78 >> 06/09/2010 11:29pm

I've just started on Niacin (a vitamin- and very rarely harms you're body unless you take HUGE amounts). Look it up online. There isn't that much on there about it. It does wonders for me!! Though for me it is most effective for anxiety and it helps me STAY awake (because I tend to spend all my time oversleeping) but once it wears off I can go to sleep really easily. Good luck!!

Jay_JWLH >> 06/09/2010 2:59pm

Yes, one. Diet. Maybe your doctor has already suggested it, or maybe your diet is already fine, but I think one of the best alternatives to medication is to have a healthy diet. Doctors are all too willing to try out a wide assortment of drugs for everything from the mild to the severe. What people might not stop to consider is that a healthier diet can lead to feeling better. I'm not saying that eating healthy will fix everything, but it is worth keeping in mind.

Now that I think about it, you can use exercise to compliment a healthy diet as well. Good luck.

How do I?

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Kiwi26 >> 05/09/2010 1:47pm

I know its slightly different...and Im kind shy when it comes to talking about this kind of stuff. But I can't get in the mood to be hooking up with my boyfriend. I try but still no. Its frustrating me and probably my boyfriend too. ive been fine before. why is this happening and what do i do???

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kronos368 >> 06/09/2010 11:27pm

Has anything bad or serious happened to you/family/friends recently? think VERY carefully and get back to me. i'd love to help

Jay_JWLH >> 06/09/2010 3:52pm

How do you feel now, compared to the way you felt before? Is there anything unusual going on between you two?

Parents Divorce.

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doesntknow_ >> 05/09/2010 4:03pm

I know there's a lot of teenagers out there that have been, are going through, or just starting out the struggles of coping with your parents divorce. I know some people have it worse than me but that's not my point. My point is that. i hate (still love them tho) them for what they did to me and my sister, i hate it how they have changed and mixed up my teenage hood and made me do some things i really do regret, i hate having to pay the for the consequences of being like this, i hate being discriminated against, i hate not being able to do things, i hate not having the whole mum and dad in the same household thing, and i hate not having my dad around, i miss him so much :( he is my ONLY father figure i want in my life and now that things have moved on and changed i just want to re wind to the point in my life where where i can spend more time with him like he used to be - cause like everyone says - people bloody well change.

I just want to talk to people who are going through a divorce and see how what they think etc - and to see im not going crazy ! haha. im sure there's 100's of teenagers out there going through this.

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kronos368 >> 06/09/2010 11:26pm

hey i've experienced the same thing that you have.
my parents split a couple of years ago and they both found a new partner (my mums being a female one and my dads being a "i'm your mother" substitute) within the first couple of months of the split. it had been 15 years since they were married and it was all thrown at me and my sister one night. thats when i started smoking and drinking. i'm only 17 now and i know that i shouldnt be doing this. my dad pays no attention to me and my mum doesnt even live in the same town. i feel isolated and abandoned by everyone i cared about. i'm in a pretty bad place right now so it's good to know there ARE people that have been and are going through a divorce. I say the aftermath of it all is the worst but, you be the judge.

I also have a question for everyone and anyone that joins this post:
What are the things that you occupy yourself with to take your mind off you parents divorce?

lou81 >> 06/09/2010 7:23pm

Hi, I understand exactly where you are coming from!.
My parents seperated officially a week ago (but it has been an ongoing process) It makes you feel awful- Is it my fault?, what could i have done to stop this happening?, many things are going through my mind as i am sure you are experiencing aswell. But we just have to remember that it is in no way our fault, I know this is something you are probably hearing a lot and to be honest I dont beleive it some days but it is so true! One thing you said upset me quite a lot- that your were mad at your parents for hurting you and your sister this way. This is so normal, same things happened to me! I didnt eat, hardly slept and didnt talk to my parent for the first few days, but after awhile you need to realise that they deserve to be happy and for them to come to this decision is no small thing, and that it is not a spur of the moment decision because it is hard to leave someone you have created a life with. Im sorry if this doesnt make any sense or anything, but knowing how crap I am feeling, and the trouble I am having with dealing with life in general I hope it helps.
Thanks

Am I making nothing a big deal?

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lou81 >> 06/09/2010 7:46pm

A week ago my parents "officially" seperated, but it has been coming for awhile.
I thought I was prepared for this! but apparently not.
The news was a shock, something i didnt expect and I have been having a bit of trouble dealing with things since. My first reaction was that I never thought it would happen, and assumed my parents would argue for the rest of their lives. The first few days were the worst I didnt eat, speak to my parents or sleep, so after awhile it built up and I talked to my mum about it. Things were good for a day, and then it was back to normal. I cant stop crying, I am on the verge of tears all the time and if its not that its angry outbursts where i throw all my stuff around the room! I havent been eating properly just because it fells wrong and i dont feel hungry at all. It also takes me a lot to get to sleep. My brother and two sisters are all older and have left home so its really just me here, even though mum,dad and my siblings have been really supportive. I havent been concentrating at school at all and havent even wanted to go to Rowing, which is very important in my life. I worry that my trouble with dealing with my parents separation is hurting them because I know it is the right thing for them but I know that they love me and I worry that my reaction is hurting them. I am also ashamed, with myself at how crap I am with dealing with this because i thought i was a strong person. I feel guilty because there are so many people with problems far worse than mine but I just feel like my world has come crashing down and I cant see anyway through this.

SO any insight? am I over reacting and should i just get over it?

Doing everything right

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Rach X >> 06/09/2010 4:45pm

I feel I do everything right, socialise with people, distract myself in positive ways, talk about problems, take my anti-depressants, but I still feel down :( I can function, but I feel like curling into a ball and crying. I sometimes think that I rely on one person too much and just attention seeking. Im really sure how I am feeling and it's frustrating. Anyone else feel this way? What could I do?

this sucks...

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AngelPhantom >> 04/09/2010 6:39pm

Hi, I'm 23 and have been fighting depression for about 10 years now. Signed up on here as I am getting down again after being ok for a while.
Just needing some positive reinforcement ay. I know things aren't all doom and gloom but its really hard to see it right now.
Heh...sigh

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Jay_JWLH >> 06/09/2010 3:32pm

Sweet. Welcome. Well you will most likely see my posts around, so I'm around. So what goods things have been going on in your life so far Angel? Mine is making sure I have a constant supply of chocolate, so I can snack on it whenever I want. Ahh the small things.

trouble

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skylines >> 04/09/2010 10:28am

uhm i've been feeling down and useless for a few months now but i had a control over it around my pears
not to show how unhappy i truly am. but this last month i havent been able to hide it. people have been noticing as i dont talk and i sway. but i reached out to an old friend who told me she didnt like me or want me around that ive changed and nobody likes me. she this in april. and a few weeks ago she apologised
and we made up. i told her everything i've been feeling and thinking, but now it seems i've made her
depressed, she blames it all on herself somehow and i hate knowing thats how she feels, that i have made
her feel the same way i do which is horrible. i've stopped talking to her so she can get better, but i feel i
can no longer tell anyone any thing as it will have the same effect.
i dont want to feel this wa any more but i dont know how to change.

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Jay_JWLH >> 06/09/2010 3:29pm

I can understand why you wouldn't want to appear weak to any of your friends. It must be like a natural thing to do so that you don't get excluded as the weaker person. But people are smart enough in todays world to talk to each other and be understanding of one another, just as long as you talk things out.

Maybe you are better off getting better by being apart, but on the other hand maybe you can benefit by having somebody you can relate to and talk to. So long as you are doing what you think is best to help each other get better.

Best thing to do would be to have a talk to a counsellor or therapist, to help work through the reasons why you are feeling and behaving so unhappy. While I'm at it, do you think you know why you are feeling this way?

Does this make me an idiot? I need you to talk to me, cos you'll all get me..I hope?

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Courts >> 04/09/2010 1:44am

For most of my life I've been a happy kid.
And up until this year, nothing has ever really gotten to me.
It was may this year that I just got really sick, I had tests, seen specialists etc and no one knew what was going on. I was hospitalised 6 times in 2 months, and was away from school for one month. I had been back at school maybe 3 weeks when a friend told me how his whole class were bitching about me behind my back (I had always gotten on with everyone in my year, I go to a small school. Year11 has about 70-80 people) I accepted that everyone has a rant about someone occasionally. But when my friends told me what they said, I was really upset. NONE of it was true, and what they were bitching about was me being sick.Some of the people who were bitching about me were supposed to be my best friends, it got to me so much, I went home and cried, the whole afternoon, my boyfriend and I broke up a week before and one boy found out that day and put a post on facebook just having a laugh about the fact we'd broken up, I then had a fight with my ex bf and he said some really hurtful things and ..im getting help now. and iv had a lot of support from my teachers and friends. I just need you guys to talk to, cos a lot of my friends dont know what its like to feel down, ) anyway. . I swear, my life got more and more miserable. School was awful, but I couldn't not go. not being at school got me bitched about in the first place and I wanted it to stop! So I went to school, kept quiet, and went home every day feeling awful. I cried myself to sleep every night and eventually ended up in tears at school because they would talk about me right in front of me. Our principle has been amazing, and told the girls and boys, at the centre of it, how they had affected me. They horribleness seemed to slow down, almost stop without them fuelling it. But last week I had an accident snowboarding (our school goes up every Wednesday) and was choppered off the mountain, I had my neck and spine realigned and cracked my pelvis. Nobody really knew what had happened and within hours, the bitching started again. I was back at school this week and everyone knows know what happened and they're really good about it, but there is one girl who just wont stop. She is saying really silly, horrible things. and its really getting to me again. One of my really good mates said I cant get better until she stops. That these horrible feelings wont go away until she does. But she just wont, people have tried telling her, she just wont. I thought she was my friend, we went to Japan together. What I think I am asking you guys is that, am I stupid for feeling so down because of her? I feel like theres something wrong with me! I have a really good circle of friends I could talk to, and a someone who is the most incredible person in my life, she has done so much for me already and i know shes there for me. but for some reason i dont know what to do! i am so confused and feel so stupid for feeling like this, i feel selfish, and silly, ARG!
Im sorry this is so long, I just thought it would be the easiest thing. to just tell you everything.

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Jay_JWLH >> 06/09/2010 3:18pm

With you away, any bit of information true or false could spiral widely out of control. For all those things to upset you though, they must have been pretty harsh rumours, but the breakup sounds like the most harsh thing of all. Hearing your ex say hurtful things is like being hurt by somebody you care about. Not to mention how personal the things they say about you can be. Give it time, and you should feel better, as I have in such a case.

It's really stupid that someone you know like that is being so cruel to you on purpose. I guess you still care about what she thinks. That's the thing I have noticed too. Once you care about somebody, even after they have turned against you, you still seem to care about them, and in turn care about what they think/say about you. In an ideal world your ex-friend would stop what she is doing, and even be your friend again. But as a harsh reality, I think you just need to stop letting what she says about you from getting through to you. You know she is going to keep saying things about you, so it is important that you stop taking those things to heart.

Lost all i ever have been and stood for

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LalaGirl >> 01/09/2010 9:48pm

Sometimes im strong you know i brave it all out and i ignore everything but then i break down for days and im weak. I find myself crying over nothing and it feels like im stuck in a deep dark pit and its like i cant escape. You know im hurting so much i dont want to be around others so push them away and lock myself away in my room and i sleep away my life sometimes i find myself crying in my room at night with no reason at all

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AshleighC >> 06/09/2010 11:19am

Heey!

Trust me, i know how you feel.
I find myself doing the exact same thing, and all i want to do, is cry and cry and cry.

Its normal you know, for people to feel like that. For something to hurt so much that you think it will never go away. But it will get better, i promise.

I thought that talking about it wasnt the best thing to do, but turns out... IT is!
I've had so much support from my councellor that, things are starting to look better for me..
Keep your head high matey, i'm here if you need to talk..
Kia Kaha
Ashleigh x

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