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Kaatiejade >> 15/05/2013 9:46pm

im 15 and I think im depressed, all the self tests say I am. Im always tired, grumpy and upset but there doesnt seem to be a,reason for it, I just am. Ive considered a cousellor but to talk about your problems dont you need to know whst thry are?? Idk im just so confused

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fortysomethingguy >> 21/05/2013 4:01am

After manys years of counselling, i can say they are good at helping you figure out what the problem is.
I have found that getting the anger out helps to figure out what its about. Sometimes I just hit a pillow, sometimes I scream, or chop wood hard.

I am not sure if it's hormonal or the real deal

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PaperBagKid >> 18/05/2013 12:37am

I am not sure if how I feel is due to hormones or the real deal...I have been having some depressing thoughts and have had low self-esteem and confidence since year 8. I tried telling my sister that I think I have this after hearing another person who had been in a somewhat similar situation...but she got really angry at me and that didn't help much..I mean, I can understand her anger. But I just thought, that if I've been having such thoughts..is it the same thing??
Also, I noticed that these thoughts get much bitter when it's the time of the month...with it, it brings about bitter attitude and anger and more thoughts and feelings like I am nogood...
I need some help in regards to this and I want to know if it's actually depression, anxiety or just hormonal.

Thanks.

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fortysomethingguy >> 21/05/2013 3:53am

For me Depression is when you dont have the energy to be angry anymore and I dont care about anything.
My wife is her most brutally honest with hormones. I dont believe any feelings are "just hormones", but that hormones put you in touch with how you are truly feeling.
Sounds like you are taking some stuff that you shiuldnt and its making you bitter and angry. Your hormones are putting you in touch with that.
Keep trying to find someone to talk to - try parents, aunts, friends parents, grandparents, whoever.
Kia kaha

please help

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fty267 >> 20/05/2013 9:47pm

At school i was the one always singled out and picked on even at home with my family and i somehow help all my emotions in sometimes having a nerveous breakdown or just an anxity attack and then i entered college.. all was good untill one of the people from my old school started spreading rumours about me, And thats when i started having these weird periods of time where i had no heart to do anything and for a while i couldnt figure out what it was then i realised what i was going through and it was so hard for me to come to terms with and im one of those people who dosent like to ask for help, i like to work alone and try and help myself but i just couldnt cope with it anymore... please i would just like some tips and advice of how to stop suffering....

Fitting in with my family

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saw121 >> 17/05/2013 4:44pm

My family is always making jokes ah about me being adopted or just me being fat and my sisters are fRom a different generation from me and they are always leaving me out even if it's not true sometimes I can't help but feel like I am adopted how do I respond ?

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lgm >> 20/05/2013 12:19pm

Often family members do not realise that the comments they make actually hurts a person and sometimes you just have to let them know. You can approach your family members on an individual basis so this way it is less embarassing for you and for them. The discussion may start like.....It really hurts me when you say that I am adopted and make fun of me. You always leave me out and I feel......

Gotta get thru

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nevergiveupyo >> 16/05/2013 10:34pm

I'm sixteen years old and have be depressed for a couple of years and I've finally had enough of it. I want to be prescribed to antidepressants but I don't want my parents to know. What's the minimun age to sign up to get them without parental consent?

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JLouisa2223 >> 17/05/2013 10:19pm

16 is the age which a Docter can perscribe medication without parental consent, however your parents are people who you'll need to help you get through, keeping things from them only gives you something to hide... don't be ashamed to say you need help

Everything.

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MaiaRadke >> 17/05/2013 1:08pm

Okay so, last year was bad but I can already tell that this year is going to be so much worse. I lost so many people I loved and now that I'm trying to get them back, I can already tell that things will never be the same. I lost the only support I had. They were literally the rope holding me down. But they're gone now and I have nothing. I keep thinking that at any moment I could just fly away and never come back. I feel like I'm walking through mud, and that with each step I take, this thick, foul mud is dragging me down just the tiniest bit more. I don't know what to to do. I can't even cry. Everything just builds up and leaves me completely numb. It's like having no senses at all. I can't see, hear, or feel. And it hurts so much. I am completely lost.

Struugling with EQC

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cloudy >> 17/05/2013 8:43am

Is anyone else really struggling due to EQC

When You Feel Like This, But Have No One To Tell

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VitaDistrutta >> 04/05/2013 4:02pm

I'm a 15 year old girl, and I'm in 9th grade. I started getting those feelings of hopelessness (and sometimes I don't even have a reason for feeling this way) at the end of 7th grade. 8th grade started and got worse and worse and I thought it was a terrible year, I didn't think it could get much worse, but it did this year. I didn't think at the time that I was depressed, (I just blamed it on a bad school year, or the teachers) but I was just depressed (maybe slightly) then and it's gotten worse. Now as my 9th grade year has progressed, I've gotten worse and worse. Sad all the time. Losing all my friends. Not feeling loved by my family. I have a boyfriend, and he's the only thing that makes me happy when I'm with him because I forget about everything else.. But as soon as he leaves, every sad thought comes crashing back down on me. He goes to a different school and we are having some problems with the relationship.. just more to add to the list. I feel loved by him more than my parents, but I can't even talk to him about my problems. He used to be depressed, but any time I'm sad, he won't try to make me feel better, but instead will get angry that I'm upset... I don't get why. So to not upset him, I started keeping my feelings from him; the one person I thought I'd be able to talk to. The person I love.. So. No friends, no parents, not even my boyfriend. I can't talk to anyone. So I ended up here. Well, if anyone reads this, thank you for listening to my story; no one else will.

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lookingforme >> 16/05/2013 11:44pm

15 is tough but I promise things get better.

Just tackle one day at time.

lookingforme >> 16/05/2013 11:44pm

15 is tough but I promise things get better.

Just tackle one day at time.

Help Me

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iamnotperfect >> 08/05/2013 8:56pm

No one understands me and what I am going through. Every day is a struggle and I just want it to all end

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Pandas >> 15/05/2013 10:15pm

No one knows exactly what you are going through but I like to try remember that there are so many people that are feeling just alone as I am even if its for different reasons the feelings are similar. "when your going through hell, just keep going" it will get better

Pandas >> 15/05/2013 10:15pm

No one knows exactly what you are going through but I like to try remember that there are so many people that are feeling just alone as I am even if its for different reasons the feelings are similar. "when your going through hell, just keep going" it will get better

DarkSoul >> 13/05/2013 6:45pm

I have exactly the same problem. No one understands anything i'm going through. I constantly have mood changes and I just want to dig a hole and live in it for eternity. I don't know if i'm depressed or if i'm suffering something else, I have a lot of undiagnosed problems and i'm too ashamed to get advice from someone unless it's not face to face. Sorry you're struggling.

lily.whitfield >> 08/05/2013 9:31pm

I get what you're feeling, it's the same for me. Even my dad, who has depression too, has no idea what's going on in my head.

Lonely, confused, unmotivated.. list goes on

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jojo15 >> 14/05/2013 8:19pm

Started all last year, 3rd year at uni, two of my really good friends moved overseas, and my partner started shutting me out of his lifes (just given other commitments etc).. so I know Ive been low for awhile but he did make me happy when we were together - most of the time. This year I put my foot down I wasn't going to be second best anymore to his commitments, we broke up (hah), now Im in my last semester (well was until I started failing terribly so may need to do another semester).. I am so lonely but at the same time any attention I get from any male feels suffocating.. I don't even know whether I want to do the same career anymore, I feel deflated, unmotivated (which is so unlike me)... so over what is my life right now.. !! Idea's please :)

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geez >> 15/05/2013 12:42pm

try to see the value in yourself. find your centre, what makes you you, and then you decide if what you're doing in uni is still what you want to do. when we're lost outside, its always a good idea to look within and remember what motivated us to go to a certain direction. whether it took you to a place you did not like, just take a look within and find the reasons that used to be so clear.

Not Sure What To Expect Next

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cathy22 >> 19/04/2013 12:11pm

just left a very hard relationship, now I feel like I have no where to go or anyone to talk too, he drove all my friends and family away, feeling like there is nothing much left for me I have no confidence no respect for myself and no one to help and not sure where to turn next. It feels like I am falling down a never ending black hole. What Should I do??.

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jojo15 >> 14/05/2013 8:24pm

me tooo!!! same position except I have no motivation for myself I don't even have any interests anymore... sad but true, now I've lost motivation for a career I've been dreaming of for so long!! here to talk at anytime if you wish, we can wollow together

LonelyLibra13 >> 20/04/2013 3:57pm

I totally know the feeling I also went through a very hard breakup of 5 years it was the worst pain I had ever felt. I felt like I could die I was hurting so bad. I cried I even cut my hair off because once I let go I needed to do someting for ME. So I guess I tell you my experience to show that it may hurt and will take healing but use this time to reconnect with your family take sometime to work on yourself it will get better just don't expect it to happen over night.

Fighting for everyone else but being left alone with your own battles

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Littleeevee24 >> 07/05/2013 11:51pm

Im that girl whos is always there for you. Feeling down? Come to me. Feeling ugly? Come to me. Feel useless? Not with me around. You going through a fight? Well hey there im your girl. 99.9% of people will come to me with a problem that i've been through. Ill help them through it because i know what its like to go through that, alone. But when im down and depressed, sad, feeling ugly, fat, unwanted etc.. I turn to those ive helped and im left grasping out at people who shy away from my hand. I get through it with a whole lot of will power and chocolate, but sometimes that's not enough. Sometimes i feel so alone.

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jojo15 >> 14/05/2013 5:37pm

I have that issue too ... too busy dealing with everyone else's issues and helping them I bottle my own up.. then no one else is there.. being positive here, I see it as a sign of strength - others see you as strong, because you are strong. But sometimes maybe lighten the load by offloading when you're helping others, then they can see you sometimes need a helping hand too xx

kev >> 14/05/2013 1:47am

Yes , often i am looked for to be the head of the family , or have always been able to talk to others and offer help . Only when i am drowning ,they are not apparent to me , i spend a lot of time alone during the day ,
and when im really trying to reach out most people seem unavailable.
when they make time i have managed to work through enough to cope again and no longer have an urge for their attention.

Does it all get better?

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DarkSoul >> 13/05/2013 6:57pm

I'm not sure if it's appropriate to write about this but I feel much better being anon and not talking to someone face to face. I don't know if it's depression or something else that i'm suffering but I definately know the world is against me. I can admit i'm not the easy person to get along with, I constantly have mood swings and I can get very aggressive out of the blue. I never stay very focussed on things for long I always come up with something new to try and them my motivation disappears. I find it so hard to talk to people up front and personal, I prefer places like this where i'm unseen. I've had a hard life growing up and it gets harder for me everyday. People are against me, i'm the black sheep in the family, not one talks to me or even try to. I have a lot of medical problems which don't help in any situation. Life's rough and I would like to know if it get's better. Last year I lost very important people in my life and I haven't taken it well. This year hidden secrets have been leeking out in the family and I haven't been handling it well. I don't know what to do. Can anyone show me the light in my darkness?

Just cant connect

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PandaPants >> 08/05/2013 7:59pm

Ive had anxiety and depression since i was about 12 or 13, im now nearly 23 and i feel like my life is forever going to be going nowhere. I had to leave school because of my anxiety and have lost many friends and relationships because people dont seem to "understand" anxiety disorders. Dont get me wrong many people have tried to help and understand. Ive never met anyone near my age that has experienced the same sort of anxiety so basically im wondering if anyone close to my age can relate? It would be good to be able to talk with someone whos had similar experiences..

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PandaPants >> 13/05/2013 2:54pm

I feel the same way, taking pills everyday when they dont work and spending hours talking with counsellors and it not helping is tiring. Do you have someone to talk to who can try to understand? You shouldnt give up stay strong :)

Overfeelinglikethis >> 13/05/2013 1:58am

I'm 24' female I've lost almost all my friends because of depression I've been diagnosed with it for just over 2 years now, medications have stopped working and councillors don't help, I don't want to give up but I'm tired,

i am that bored in life i feel defeated

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llg >> 04/03/2013 6:32pm

i am a 23 year old mum and wfe and i think i do that very well and thats the only thing i have got in my lfie that actaully goes on.
My roblem is within my self i am deeply unhappy, i am so bored! i live on a farm in rural new zealand and am kms from friends and inlaws(as i a migrant i have NO family here of my own) i cant get a job because there is no childcare in local village 30 mins away- and its not viable to go an hour away to nearest town and back each day. I have no income persoanlly so cant do online courses because i cant afford tuition or a loan either. i literally have no purpose, apart from mum and wife duties i actually have no purpose in my life. i am so bored. life really is a drag for me. im now boredom eating so i am putting on weight( not helpful when actually having weight issues forever!~) and i just feel miserable because no one understands how i feel, they just don't get it and think i should be doing this and that and i should be grateful for this and that. I just cant tell anyone close they just don't get it. right now i just feel defeated i have no purpose here its a world different from my bus life back in uk. i am so defeated :( :(

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Overfeelinglikethis >> 13/05/2013 2:20am

I,know exactly what u mean. I have lost ME and don't know where to find her. I feel I Have no purpose and no direction either I just play mum and wife day in day out. I know exactly how u feel right down to the finest detail.

DARK*STAR >> 30/03/2013 4:01pm

Hi Llg :)

I think I know how you might feel! The thing I've come to realize recently is that when you're depressed and bored with life you become a little desperate for something else and there's a tendency to try to take on board what others say you should do. The only thing is you're not actually emotionally connected to their suggestions so it only leaves you feeling more empty.

I read a quote the other day that said something along the lines of "pursue what you value and you will never get bored"

...meaning, engage in whatever floats your boat. Regardless of what others may think. Regardless of whether you think you can achieve it or not.

KGR >> 19/03/2013 2:47pm

You said you couldn't do a course, well I don't know what it was you want to study but just because you're not paying for something doesn't mean your not learning. Say you would dedicate 3hrs a day to a course if you could- why don't you spend that time learning about it anyway- you never know what the future will hold (did you guess this would be you when you left the UK) so just assume things will change and one day you may be able to do that course you want, you'll have so much fantastic background knowledge in your area of study if you dedicate the time you have now to it. So when you are able you'll breeze through. Think of what you would want if money and travel weren't an issue- an end goal, then work backwards until you find yourself at the first step. Good Luck.

llg >> 17/03/2013 11:09am

I do alot of baking and crafty bits its just not enough. I do plenty with my son, i have no doubt about my mothering skills, its me as in myself , my own identity i have lost and i have no idea how to reach her,. I have no life, no social life, no job, no direction, nothing. I just am wife and mum. This is why i am feeling so out of sorts. I feel like i am a robot. day in day out.

neko >> 04/03/2013 10:59pm

I know I don't understand way but try setting yourself some goals. Teach your children about new things, play with them, draw with them. Or maybe try gardening. Plant fruits and vegetables or even flowers. What about blogging? Start a new blog and write about your life as a mum or anything you want to. Learn new recipes and bake, knit a jumper for your children or your future babies. Do something nice for your SO~ clean the house, learn yoga, read books, collect things, make origami, find new goals. Just my suggestions hope you're doing well :)

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