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How do I get past this?
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Gabriel >> 30/03/2015 8:28pm
Kia ora all, recently I have been made redundant, work is hard to come by, all I am getting is knock backs and it is coming up to the anniversary of my best mates passing. The pressure is getting to me and I do not know where to turn. I am a private person and dont like letting my walls down to let people in. I have tried, but this has failed in the past and I dont want to get burnt again.
I feel like I've been in mental health services too long
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nobodyelse >> 04/03/2015 9:03pm
I was first referred to youth mental health services when I was 13. I was discharged after maybe a year or so, then referred again a few months later. I'm 17 now. I lived in supported accomodation for youth with mental health issues for just over a year and im moving back home now. I see a psychologist once a week I've been doing dbt for a couple of years now. I'm not on medication but I've tried a few, doesn't seem to help. I feel selfish, like im wasting time. I can't ask my family for support, and I can't really go to my friends because it's not fair to put them in difficult positions. I feel like I should be able to deal with this by now and like a lot of people are expecting me to, but I still feel so depressed, and struggle all the time. what are people's thoughts on this?

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appleslayer13 >> 26/03/2015 10:30pm
I have been going to Youth Specialty Services for 4 years and have been taking anti-depressants. It is completely natural to feel selfish but you aren't, it is actually much more helpful for you to be going to see a psychologist than dealing with depression on your own. I would recommend trying an anti-depressant again as it equalizes your emotions to a stable state and also to not beat yourself up about this, it isn't your fault. You should use all the facilities you can until you believe you are ready to go without them.
my fears
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livelifetothefullest >> 17/03/2015 7:58pm
I have been feeling down, scared and usless over the last couple of weeks... I don't know why, but I want help. The only times where I have felt happy are when I am with my boyfriend and close friend and with family. I don't know why I feel this way but I do, I feel like I am in someone elses body, not my own, I don't feel like my usual self. I just want help, any ideas to get my spirits back up? or feeling like myself again

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appleslayer13 >> 26/03/2015 10:23pm
Thank you for sharing. I would recommend seeing a doctor about these feelings, they are trained and deal with this sort of thing on a daily basis. I thought I was inadequate, I am currently on high doses of anti-depressants and live day-by-day. Seek help and reach out to someone you trust then see a doctor.
like freetxt but for ppl w/o phones?
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judyann >> 19/03/2015 3:24pm
hey i can't be the only depressed person without a phone, right? like between mental illness interfering with my ability to get and keep a job and my (probably just perceived) lack of friends i just don't have a phone, why isn't there any kind of one-on-one chat system like anywhere on the internet for when like now i'm feeling p scary low but physically. cannot. text or call????
Opening up
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MRK >> 22/02/2015 12:27am
I feel pretty lost, confused, and overwhelmed. Feel like I can't cope with the everyday stresses other people do. I want to withdraw but I don't... I open up - friends family but I feel like I'm a drain on them, or they don't seem to understand, or they say the wrong things (which I try not to blame them for, but I guess I do) I feel like they're judging me and I wish I'd never said anything - and then I feel even more isolated and alone. What do I do?

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kylie0815 >> 09/03/2015 12:36am
Try to find something that helps to make you feel better like writing or sport. you culd also try calling one of the helplines listed on this website if you need to talk to someone
CannotComplain >> 17/03/2015 4:36pm
I found family not like a open confession book but someone to just sit with and feel warm.. you know, not alone all the time. Family is the best thing you will ever have and yes, i know they are annoying at times, but they are always there, even if its just a phone call away. :) keep smiling
Depressed while pregnant?
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Agirlwhodoesntdream >> 11/03/2015 3:30pm
Is being depressed while pregnant a good thing or a bad thing?

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not too sure if im depressed or just being a dramaqueen
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Mysztry >> 27/02/2015 10:27pm
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free_falling2902 >> 04/03/2015 2:57pm
Whether your depressed or just over-reacting make sure you talk to someone about it! Letting someone know about how you feel and what's going on can change your mood drastically, I know from experince. Depression is something you don't have to suffer through alone! Joining this website gave me hope and happiness and gave me the realisation that I'm not alone. No matter what, we'll be there for you every step of the way! :) Stay strong xx
I don't know what to do...
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An_Anonymiss >> 26/01/2015 2:06pm
My name is CJ, I am a girl, and I am almost 15 years old. I don't know how long I've had depression, but I'm pretty sure it's been so long people assumed that the symptoms i've been having are actually my personality traits. I got suspicious that I was coming down with depression when one of my friends (jokingly) made a comment about it: "You used to be so nice, what happened?" I talk to my other friend about it, but I never feel like I can tell anyone face-to-face about everything, especially since I've just come to realization a few months ago... I've subconsciously distanced myself from everyone over the years to the point where I feel like I can't trust anyone with the fear that they will tell others. I feel completely alone. I had a breakdown one night and I had to miss school because of it; my mom says I should get a therapist, but that's the last thing I want. She, along with everyone else in my family, are included in the list of people I can't bring myself to trust. I WANT to talk to somebody, but I always talk myself out of it every time I think I want to. I don't know what to do...

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free_falling2902 >> 27/02/2015 8:54am
Everyone feels like they have no one to talk to, no one to listen. But I'm here for you and so are everyone else on this site is here for you too. A therapist doesn't always help so what your saying is good. I understand that you don't trust your family because neither do I, and that's what happens when you feel this way. DOn't feel like giving up. Don't hurt yourself. If you ever need help, I'm here and so is everyone else :) Be strong xx
Need some Tips...
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Jacob_Reid14 >> 17/02/2015 9:04pm
I'm Jacob and I'm 14 years old, I have been depressed for 5 ish months now and I'm hiding it... But it's gotten a bit worse in the last few weeks. I want to get help but I don't want anybody to fell bad for me. (telling parents, friends ect.) that's why I've made an account on here :) so uhh if any body has any tips, please let me know. P.s I might not read this for a few days so if anybody replies quickly.. Thank you for helping me .

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MRK >> 22/02/2015 12:19am
Hi Jacob. Even if you're not ready to talk to friends/family yet, I'm glad you're talking to us.
friendly advice needed (:
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bedazzled >> 05/01/2015 7:08pm
Hello to all you lovely helpful people out there! Some advice on how to cope with depression/anxiety would be so greatly appreciated. This overwhelming feeling of being extremely drained, down and lonely (even when around people) has been happening for a few months now, and i'm not quite sure how to cope. it's like these negative thoughts control every situation im in to the point where socializing becomes a huge effort rather than a natural habit. I've never felt something so overpowering, like there is a constant judgemental news feed in my mind exploiting all my fears, flaws and insecurities that i cant concentrate on anything else. whats worse is that the people i've tried to reach out to dont know how it feels, telling me to just cheer up and think positive which is easier said than done. Ive been through a lot of stress over the last 3 years (moving around, stressful relationships, studying whilst working an intense waitress job) I didnt realize how much of a problem it had become until i realized i'd pushed away all my friends and family because of how distant and anti social my personality had become. im a 20 year old female with a loving caring family who lives in one of the most beautiful countries in the world I should be happy and cheerful but these thoughts have become my personality! I finally told my boyfriend id been experiencing extreme anxiety the other day because he asked why i'd been so weird and quiet. he didnt quite no how to react and just said to cheer up and see a doctor. I cant confide in anyone and it scares me so much because i dont know how to control it. Would any of you amazing people out there have some advice on how you dealt with your own similar experiences? peace, love & infinite wisdom be with you always (:

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Duncan >> 09/02/2015 1:35pm
Hi bedazzled, I hear you I have experienced similar things (and still do to a degree). I know the judgemental feed, I would have things where in my mind my friends would judge me for something i have/haven't done, even though in reality they wouldn't. But these thoughts would feedback on my mind and affect the way I feel - it's not the thoughts that are the issue, it's the judgement. I was in a stage where I wanted to be happy all the time but at times I was forcing myself to be happy. It felt like quicksand, the harder I fought to be positive, the more I would sink. Then it crossed my mind that if there was a sad moment I would want to feel sad, I would want to be open to what I was feeling and just let it in. Shunyru Suzuki likens the mind to a cow in a pasture - if the field is small, the cow gets agitated, becoming unsettled and breaking the fence. But if the cow has a large pasture to roam in it is a lot more settled (I read this from a Phil Jackson book - he has an interview with Oprah Winfrey some segments of it are on Youtube). Part of when I feel agitated is when I try to control my mindset (and that's when the judgement comes regularly too because it's judging if your mindset is good or bad). When I'm willing to let the situation be, I'm more open and consequently feel better, and know that in letting the situation be, that is strength. The personality you want to show will shine through once the clouds have drifted by. You have courage talking about your situation. Love :)
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